Buhlebami

Versatile

[Areej @Rapunzel_hnn]

Why do we tell Women to choose better Men, but rarely tell Men to become better partners?

[Buhlebami @Scrumptiousness]

@SputnikNcube All of it depends on context hant. When people get married I assume they discuss how step children or each the children borne not with each other will be catered for

[Buhlebami @Scrumptiousness]

@SputnikNcube It's ok. Kid has 3 responsible parents. He can take care of his child akularoblem. Raising kids takes community. Whatever form that is. Problem abantu sifuna ukulwa lapho okungekho necessary khona
When everything is about the children then it's not complicated

[Buhlebami @Scrumptiousness]

@yosore23 They have always hated us. It's just that now we hear the noise more because the internet is a platform. The more women decenter men the more they scream, rape and kill us. They never liked us. They just want us to be of service

[The married man @marriedmn]

5. Respect during disagreements.

One thing many women repeated was how attractive it felt when their husband stayed respectful even during arguments.

No insults, humiliation, emotional cruelty or shouting.

A man who can control himself during frustration creates emotional trust because he shows maturity under pressure.

Anyone can act loving during peaceful moments.Character is revealed during conflict and respectful communication during hard moments strengthens attraction more than many men realize.

[The married man @marriedmn]

1. Emotional consistency.

Many women said the sexiest thing about their husband was not grand romantic gestures, but the fact that he remained emotionally steady even during stressful seasons.

He did not disappear emotionally every time life became difficult, he stayed calm during pressure, he communicated during problems,he remained dependable.

A man who creates emotional stability inside the home becomes deeply attractive over time because peace is rare in today’s world.

Chaos may create excitement temporarily consistency creates security.And security creates long-term attraction.

[Buhlebami @Scrumptiousness]

@FavouriteCoco2 Emotional labouring.... Women know what I am talking about

[Gad Saad @GadSaad]

The only thing that stops violent men from raping you and your society are other men who are equally willing to be violent in stopping the rapists. The West has decided that the highest virtue is to quietly comply with the destruction of your civilization because to do otherwise is bigoted toward the rapists. It really is that simple.

[Buhlebami @Scrumptiousness]

@TheLowkeyMummy Marriage is honestly overrated guys.... I think we need a restructuring of this institution
To start off with marriage was not about love or emotional fulfillment. It was abt raising kids & inheritance. We mixed things now we are stuck

[mamncane @Kim_Khandashisa]

I don’t think men understand that marrying someone with a child makes you that child’s parent/legal guardian. They seem to think that role is still negotiable after marriage. Committing to a woman with a child means committing to be a father to their child. What’s confusing yall?

[Buhlebami @Scrumptiousness]

@Lizayoe I have always found the concept of "True" and "Love" following each other problematic. I also hold the notion that there is nothing like true love. Love is love nje. A very layered concept depending on where you are globally and what language you are using

[Tyger @Tyger_onchain]

Too many women have been praised for their ability to suffer in silence while their happiness, dignity, and emotional well-being were ignored. Tolerance of abuse is not a virtue, and it should never be confused with wife material.

[goma @soigomaa]

After a certain age, your parents slowly become your children. They ask simple questions, repeat stories, and depend on your patience the way you once depended on theirs. Very few understand this role reversal.What looks like innocence or inconvenience is really time coming full circle. Don't correct them harshly. Don't rush them. Care for them the way they once protected you. This is not a burden. It is repayment.

[Buhlebami @Scrumptiousness]

@SputnikNcube What I hate is people who marry people with children without considering heavily what they getting into. As a rule & Ubuntu in general you automatically inherit that responsibility. My mom's sister first born came with my granny. She wasn't that surname but nobody knew that

[marwa🤍 @lbawram]

Faut vraiment arrêter avec ce fantasme des femmes qui sont dépressives à 35 ans parce qu’elles sont seules (elles vivent leur meilleure vie) aucune femme n’est jamais morte de célibat tandis que les cimetières sont remplis de femmes qui auraient préféré ne jamais s’être mariées

[Kam @PatsKam]

“stay with them through the ups and downs."

downs are NOT:

cheating
disrespecting you
abuse
manipulation
gaslighting
control

downs are:
financial hardships
health issues
tragedies
losing the "spark"
not being as close
job losses

[Buhlebami @Scrumptiousness]

@BridgetUrenna 😂😂😂😂

[Nyabuhara .Julian . Kitunga. @nyabuharajk]

@BalogunSonia4 Domestic violence ,emotional abuse ,Neglect and abandonment.Any reasons can be used if you are able to prove to court that it is worth the divorce .

[SheisShalom😇 @shobowaleshalom]

@KhananiShingan1 The biggest shift isn't "I don't need a man."
It's: Whether someone stays or leaves, I still have a life I love. And I'm beginning to learn that. 🥹

[Buhlebami @Scrumptiousness]

@KhananiShingan1 For me it's the "being chosen" idea. I have let it go completely. I choose my self. That's it. I have always enjoyed my Solo outings and as a young girl got good at talking to myself so not really scared of the rest of my life not tethered to a man. Choose you❤