you actually can speak up at anytime but you have decided that in order to maintain connection with this person you need to abandon yourself. it's clearly making you unhappy yet you stay anyway.
Fucking with a man in a relationship is dumb AF. Staying with a man you know is cheating on you is dumb AF. It’s all stupid. Nobody got one up on the other.
You giving these niggas too much grace. A man literally created an OBITUARY for his bm who was still very much alive & in a relationship with him & was telling other women she died. Y'all truly don't fathom how low a lot of these mfs will go to gain access to women.