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How anxiety & panic disorders are a story of evolutionary mismatch (1/5)

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4. L-Theanine

Usually not a big fan of supplements but...

I’ve seen people who get jittery from caffeine mix this in with their morning cup of coffee or even just taking it everyday, as part of their routine, to be more calm.

It’s not a miracle pill, but it definitely helps.

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Stress & anxiety are the biggest blockers to your productivity, happiness, and overall well-being.

And most of the advice you find on the internet doesn’t work.

Here are REAL & practical steps you can do today to reduce your stress:

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3. Reframe stress

We’ve been conditioned into thinking that stress = danger.

Although it was true when we were cavemen, where we used stress to sense danger, it's not the case today.

Frame stress as a signal from your brain to change, rather than "catastrophe is imminent".

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Being in the shower is probably the closest thing to a meditative state you can get without actually meditating.

Because you’re forced to be with yourself and your thoughts, there are no external stimuli.

Good excuse to take longer showers 😭

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Would you tell your friend how much you hate them and how useless they are everyday?

No, so then why would you do it to yourself? The way you talk to yourself completely dictates how you view your life and yourself.

Your life sucks? Watch how your brain speaks about you.

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The only way to “get rid” of anxiety is to face it and fully feel every emotion that comes with it.

Distracting yourself, fighting it or avoiding will only make it worse.

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@nutmegmerchant Reported

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@YunesSH @AhadRizvi1 Come get your boy @ario_xavier

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@JohnRoggan Health, family and friends are the most important and dearest things to me :)

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@JohnRoggan Number 1 definitely for me. When you’re talking to someone and they feel the need to dominate the conversation, I feel like they don’t really care to listen to what I have to say or my opinion on things. Huge red flag!

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@JohnRoggan Diving deep into trauma is cool, but it still doesn’t change the way you behave.

You need to train your mind like a muscle at the gym to truly change your behaviour!

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@JohnRoggan @Theholisticpsyc This is the problem with self-improvement YouTubers and books. It’s impossible to listen and take into account of someone’s specific needs. Instead people are given a “one size fits all” solution that doesn’t fit them!

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@JohnRoggan @TehutiKhem If you don’t set boundaries and speak up early enough in a relationship, you give the other person license to walk all over you

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Who’s the person you spend most time with?

You!
You keep yourself company 24/7

Reason enough to make that person the best they can be - not some nagging, worrying, procrastinating burden!

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Good relationships are not about how little you argue, but about how well

3 mindsets to argue well:

1. Don't avoid conflict
That only redirects it ...to inside your mind
Get it on the table and out of your head!

2. Say what bothers you in a non-accusing way
Avoid the word "you" - say what you feel with “I” statements
“I felt disappointed when I saw that…”

3. Forgive - for others' AND your own sake
Learn from it, then move on
Holding grudges just ruins your mood and makes you lash out even harder next time

Reminding myself of these 3 mindsets helps me argue to get ahead, not deeper into trouble
Try them yourself!

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I learned: They key isn’t even new ways of coping but learning how to notice the early warning signs that I’m getting emotional

If I notice that I have certain thoughts or start fiddling, I come back to my senses before having even caused any regrets

This app was great for indentifying my warning signs: https://t.co/HTs27ceVP5

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Our worries are great at marketing themselves

They make up horror scenarios
We anxiously stay in our comfort zone
Then, after nothing bad happened (duh!), they claim they prevented the horrors

What they really achieved: Short-lived relief at the price of long-term regret

Act despite your fears!

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Whenever you're doing something difficult you should always ask yourself why you're doing it.

When you have a strong answer for this, you won't need short spurts of willpower to keep you going.

Instead, you have a constant stream of motivation fueled by purpose.