Punishment is as often misunderstood as it's fetishished. Whether you're out to modify behaviour, enforce the dynamic, or provide closure, understanding the role of punishment is key. Know the 'why' before the 'how'.
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@metallicsub Yes, exactly. It really displays a lack of empathy imo, because it shows someone can't put themselves in someone else's shoes. They're just projecting their own feelings / desires instead.
'Remember gifts are meant to please the other person' is great life advice in general.
Last week, someone at my office complained their mother wants a specific sewing machine part for X-Mas and they wouldn't buy it b/c it's not a 'fun' gift & I thought that was quite sad.
Maintenance spanking is about more than discipline; it can be a means of nurturing good habits, fulfilling mutual needs and maintaining a connection to the dynamic.
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@TheSirDax@thatdommebrat I have spent like 15 minutes trying to visualise what this guy thinks female anatomy looks like and I still can't. Maybe an authority on drawing alien porn could help. It's only 9.30am and I feel like that's enough Internet for me today.
@LadyScarlettM @podofeleus Exactly. I'm a sadist with an often affectionate 24/7 dynamic. If I'm torturing him for my pleasure, but I'm nice about it, is that harsh or gentle? We should be past discussing femdom in these terms.
With Locktober chastity mania looming, it's important to remember it's not *every* domme's cup of tea. Dominant women aren't a hive mind and chastity is not a femdom essential!
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Is anyone having issues with masses of bot accounts followers? I swear I'm blocking one every other day. They usually have a girls name, maybe a photo and one nonsensical tweet, 1k+ following count, and a handful of followers.
As a sadist, I hate using narrative of punishment. No offence to anyone who's into it, but I just find it so unnecessary. If I want to hurt my sub, I will *just hurt him*. I don't need an excuse.
Welcome to E-Lust 164, a monthly digest of sex and kink bloggers - have a look and see what takes your fancy.
Among many delicious and interesting things, this month's E-Lust covers punishment, how to approach a mistress, and fun penis facts.
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Yes, exactly this. A masochist who doesn't know they are one can push people in really toxic ways. Masochism is fundementally, by its nature, self-centred. Sadism requires an exercise of empathy - you can't enjoy want you can't understand.
@Satanatrix I think a lot of it is because people conflate punishment & 'funishment', and bratting with 'I will aggravate you on purpose, even though you've explicitly, repeatedly, and clearly asked me to stop'.
Having never done 'vanilla' relationships, my experience with kink leaves me chronically confused at the lack of communication, self-awareness & compatibility in quite a few of my vanilla friends' relationships. Why is it that so many are allergic to just talking to each other?