Every man without kids is on a countdown clock he refuses to read.
If you’re in your 20s, you need to live and operate like the clock is ticking. Because it is.
You need to lifemax.
Work long hours and early mornings. Delete social media. Sell the video games. Cancel the streaming services. Quit every vice you overconsume. Say “yes” to plans when you don’t want to. Say “yes” to opportunities when you shouldn’t. Work out daily. Work multiple jobs. Build multiple businesses. Travel when you don’t feel like it. Try new hobbies. Take stupid risks. Make as many mistakes as you can. Fail. Lose. Win. Everything.
You HAVE to do everything and anything.
It’s the only way to max out life before the woman comes. Before the kids come. Before the [insert whatever you don’t feel like doing] comes. Because it’s life, and it’s coming.
When you max out life, you get closure. You close the chapter. You look forward to the next one, because as men we always want the next challenge.
But if you don’t?
You will resent. You will regret. You’ll blame the kids, the job, the economy, the pandemic, whatever cope you choose.
Then you slowly check out. More video games. Smoking again. Searching for an escape. If only you went to Europe. If only you tried that business. If only, if only.
That’s a recipe for disaster.
And understand this. If you’re dragging your feet now with no kids, you will not magically work 10 times harder when the child arrives. Your instinct will be to slow down, stay close, and enjoy it. Which makes starting 10 times harder than it is today. And when it doesn’t happen, you’ll tell yourself you can’t because you have a kid now. That becomes the cope you repeat for the next 50 years.
The child doesn’t kill your ambition. Your inaction before the child does
And it’s worse now than ever. Our generation has delayed adultification. Late 20s and early 30s feels like what mid 20s was a few decades ago.
That’s fine, but your body doesn’t know that. You’re still 29, or 31, or 33. No kids. No prospects. No purpose. Mother Nature is undefeated.
We were raised unnatural. Social media. Notifications. LEDs. The only counter is a full and natural life.
Take risks. Be outside. Talk to people. Travel. Fall in love. Get your heart broken. Make money. Lose money. Be stressed. Survive. Live.
Because if you keep kicking the can down the road, you’ll wake up 38. Still smoking weed. Still playing video games. Still broke. Still without kids.
That road is just around the corner if you take that turn.
So wake up from the perpetual scroll. Disconnect. Remove the consumption. Touch grass. Live.
Max out now or resent forever.
The quickest way to “get your spark back” is to literally light yourself on fire. You’ve got to burn baby. You’re depressed bc you’re not being insane enough. Double. Down. The world does not reward half ass. All in or out. You’re thinking too small. You’ve accepted your current reality as the only reality. Bullshit. You need to write a list of the most insane asks you could ever dream of. “I am a NYT best selling author. I am the founder of a Fortune 500 company. I paint for a living and I make a damn good living.” Ask and you shall receive. Embody and you become. Flip the fucking script. Your current ceiling is now the floor. Level up.
You need to burn.
@RachelMyGod Yo pensaba como tú durante muchos años. Hace poco he tenido un flechazo otra vez con alguien a quien no veía en mucho tiempo. Ahora tiemblo por lo que pueda pasar en un futuro.
@caoscontinuo El juego de colores y luces de los tatuajes, en armonía con la sábana del fondo, junto al cuerpo de una chica guapa y un libro, me evoca la estética de mis experiencias psicodélicas con el LSD. Un buen viaje.
@luismariasalgad Lo más preocupante es que estas políticas son profundamente cortoplacistas. Se obsesionan con maquillar los KPIs del presente, aunque eso signifique canibalizar el crecimiento futuro de la organización.
@luismariasalgad Pero basta con que aparezca un problema serio para que empiecen los mamoneos. Ahí desaparece el compromiso de la empresa. Ya no hay personas: sólo recursos de usar y tirar. Eso no es gestionar. Es quemar talento.
@IngenieroSeed Al final, lo único que necesito es un buen amigo y tiempo libre para jugar una partida de ajedrez. El café lo pago encantado, y el tablero hace tiempo que ya está comprado.
@IngenieroSeed ¿Y de qué me sirve comer en los mejores sitios, invitar a todo el mundo o gastar por gastar? No gano precisamente mal, y aun así vivo muy por debajo de lo que podría permitirme.
@alejperez_ Del mismo modo, si adquiriera bloques de viviendas para incorporarlos a un parque público y adjudicarlos mediante procedimientos públicos, aumentaría la oferta disponible. Pero esa no parece ser la prioridad.
@alejperez_ Si el Estado hubiera recuperado parte de las ayudas concedidas a los bancos durante la crisis quedándose con parte de su parque de viviendas vacías, hoy la crisis de la vivienda probablemente sería menos intensa.
¿Cuántas veces has escuchado que la plusvalía no existe porque "el empresario aporta las máquinas, las instalaciones y la inversión"? El mito neoliberal dice que el valor nace de combinar capital y trabajo. Suena lógico, ¿verdad? Pero no es más que un mito. 1/13