Here’s something healing for you:
Sometimes, you don’t need to forgive someone to be more “mature” in fact, sometimes, being more mature is holding them accountable for their actions, and letting your emotions release than neglecting it under the guise of “moving on/maturing”
normalise staying loyal during the talking stage. you shouldn't be texting or going on dates with other people if you plan on dating the person you're talking to. but that's a conversation this generation will never understand
"ppl with bpd are too much" well no, too many ppl provoke emotional distress and then act shocked by our reactions. being loved properly, reassured, and appreciated changes everything and brings us back to who we are beneath the pain.