@8_rivi When someone is stacked with that many achievements, it usually serves a narrative purpose rather than reflecting real-life balance
It’s basically storytelling shorthand for “this person is on another level.”
I bought a top-tier gaming monitor with my own bonus money. Two weeks later, I come home and it’s gone. My boyfriend replaced it with his old, flickering 1080p screen. His excuse? "My desk setup needed the aesthetic, and you mostly just use yours for spreadsheets anyway, so you won't even notice the refresh rate."
I didn't say a word. I waited until he went to the gym, packed my monitor back into its original box, and took his car keys with me to my sister’s house. When he called panicking, I told him, "I figured you wouldn't notice the walk home since you're so focused on your fitness aesthetic anyway."
Shoutout to everyone with ADHD spending today “doing nothing” and correctly calling it rest. Most ADHD brains aren’t truly resting when they look still, they’re recovering from running on empty for too long. Today isn’t laziness. It’s maintenance for an always drained battery.
Having an ADHD best friend means conversations look like this:
“Did you eat today?”
“Yes. Wait- no. Actually I had coffee.”
“Coffee isn’t food.”
“I know, but listen to this random thought I just had- ”
…and somehow two hours later you’ve discussed childhood trauma, business ideas, a movie you both forgot the name of, why pigeons walk like that, and one very important life plan you’ll probably forget by tomorrow.
You disappear for weeks sometimes, reply with “OMG I JUST SAW THIS” at 2am, send 14 TikToks instead of answering directly, and still love each other like no time passed.
It’s chaotic, emotionally deep, slightly dysfunctional, and weirdly healing because neither of you has to pretend to be “less much.”