My husband watched me cry for 47 minutes last night and didn’t hug me once.
Me: “So you’re really just gonna sit there?”
Husband: “Yeah.”
Me: “While I’m crying?”
Husband: “Yeah.”
Me: “Wow.”
Husband: “Are you ready to answer my question?”
Me: “How can you even care about that right now?”
Husband: “Because that’s why we’re having this conversation.”
Me: “You see your wife crying and all you care about is being right?”
Husband: “I didn’t say that.”
Me: “You don’t gotta say it.”
I started crying even harder.
He still didn’t move.
Me: “You used to comfort me.”
Husband: “I did.”
Me: “So what changed?”
Husband: “I noticed something.”
Me: “What?”
Husband: “Every time I bring up something you did, you cry.”
Me: “Because you hurt my feelings.”
Husband: “Last month I asked why you told your sister something private about our marriage.”
Me: “And?”
Husband: “You cried. We spent an hour talking about my tone. Never discussed what you told her.”
I went quiet.
Husband: “Before that, I asked why you spent $2,800 from our savings without telling me.”
Me: “You yelled.”
Husband: “I didn’t yell.”
Me: “You raised your voice.”
Husband: “And somehow we spent that whole night discussing my voice instead of the $2,800.”
Me: “Okay, but you made me feel attacked.”
Husband: “Then there was your ex.”
Me: “Oh my God.”
Husband: “I asked why you were texting him at midnight.”
Me: “It wasn’t like that.”
Husband: “You cried before answering.”
Me: “Because you accused me of cheating.”
Husband: “No. I asked why you were texting him.”
Me: “Same thing.”
Husband: “No, it ain’t.”
That’s when he said something that really got me.
Husband: “I finally realized your tears end every conversation you don’t wanna have.”
Me: “So now I’m manipulating you?”
Husband: “I didn’t say that.”
Me: “That’s literally what you’re implying.”
I started crying again.
He looked at me for a few seconds.
Husband: “See?”
Me: “See WHAT?”
Husband: “We were supposed to be talking about you lying to me yesterday. Now we’re talking about whether I’m a bad husband because you’re crying.”
I ain’t even know what to say.
Husband: “You’re allowed to cry. But we’re finishing the conversation after you’re done.” ................