Let me make something clear. Your desire for love and affection and companionship will never outweigh my desire to be rich and superior. You're my wallet, not my boyfriend.
Messaging a domme for free in Findom is like walking into a luxury store and asking for a free designer bag it shows you don’t understand the value. Findom isn’t about chatting for fun. It’s a dynamic built on respect, power, and payment. When you message a domme without a tribute, you're crossing a boundary and wasting her time — time that should be paid for. If you can’t lead with a send, you’re not ready to serve. Dommes don’t exist to entertain they exist to be worshipped and spoiled. 💖
There's no such thing as good subs and bad subs. There are SUBS, who worship the ground we walk on and provide true servitude; and then there are imposters, who pretend to be subs with the expectation of getting something in return, under the guise of Findom. In my eyes, all REAL subs are GOOD subs. The others aren't subs at all.
That is why there NEEDS to be a level of discussion after first tribute. What you're into, what is out of bounds, names you like/dont like to be called, how much communication is desired, etc. I will never go through this before tribute, but after that, it's about building a good dynamic between me and my sub. There are definitely subs that just want a quick drain and be done, but this process is necessary for a long term relationship between Domme/sub.