Incels are born from the biological drive to have sex. Once you realize sex is Not That Impressive, you'll realize you want somebody interesting as a partner.
80% of women are incredibly boring because they never had to make any effort to be interesting
There is essentially nothing you can do to fix somebody's depression if it's induced by their routine. If they're actually threatening to kill themselves you can either try to make them laugh or tell them it's stupid. It genuinely does get better chat