learning how to tell when advice is really just someone elseโs regret in disguise. your divorced friend cautioning you about marriage, your broke uncleโs take on investments, your unhappy parent steering your career.
they are not advising you. they are processing themselves. once you learn to hear the wound behind the words you stop letting lost people give you directions.
One of my college professors once told us, โEnjoy your day, go out and have fun but once you get back home, study for only 2 hours.โ He insisted that doing just that would place you in a completely different league.
Not many people realize how profound that advice really is.
Your entire feminist praxis cannot be based solely on your lived experience. If you are unable to interrogate behaviours, attitudes, and the systems that shape them, you are inadvertently going to reinforce the same systems you wish to dismantle.
the striver model of achievement: "I want to succeed because then I'll feel admired/loved/recognized/safe"
the gardener model of achievement: "I want to succeed because there are things under my care & I want them to thrive"
my most boomer take is that being endlessly gentle with yourself all the time and never forcing yourself to do anything you donโt want to do isnโt self care itโs lazy and itโs bad for you
you can go vegan, boycott AI, fast fashion, and plastic and only take the bus for the rest of your life and the US military will undo it all in like 30 minutes because they want Venezuela's oil
fall in love โ matchmake your friends
find community โ invite others in
find your passion โ help unlock others
life is better when quests are shared
Tingin niyo ba inisip ni Rizal yung "mental health" ng mga prayle nung sinulat nya ang Noli Me Tangere? ๐คช
Wag nyo ako paandaran na "nothing will change." The goal is to make the elite and the corrupt afraid of the masses.
Kung ayaw mo, matulog ka. Wag kang humarang.