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We will be reaching out soon, hauntlings!!
We're so, so excited 🖤
(Note from Persie: Just imagine that this gif is Arty helping us email u)
A gentle queer language PSA from someone who is both a lesbian and identifies with the femme identity 🩷
“Fem” and “femme” aren’t interchangeable.
Fem is generally a descriptor for feminine presentation. Femme is also a queer identity with deep roots in lesbian history, particularly butch/femme culture. It doesn’t simply mean “feminine woman.”
And yes, nonbinary lesbians exist! (Haii it me)
Femme and butch have always had complex relationships with gender, and neither identity can or should be reduced to “woman who is feminine” or “woman who is masculine.”
Historically, femme also meant more than just an aesthetic. Some femmes were able to move through public spaces with more perceived heterosexuality or gender conformity than visibly butch lesbians. That relative privilege could (and did) put femmes in a position to stand up for, advocate for, and protect their butches and community members who were more immediately targeted for their gender nonconformity.
That doesn’t mean femmes were universally “straight-passing” or protected from homophobia. Femme lesbians faced plenty of their own erasure and discrimination. But that history of solidarity is a very important part of butch/femme culture.
And whenever this conversation comes up, someone inevitably mentions “femme fatale.”
Yes, femme literally means “woman” in French, and femme fatale is a French phrase that long predates the modern queer identity. That doesn't make every English use of “femme” interchangeable with “fem” or erase the specific meaning the word developed within queer and lesbian communities.
Words can have different meanings depending on their cultural and linguistic context. “Femme fatale exists” and “femme has a specific history as a queer identity” can both be true at the same time.
So when femme is used simply as a prettier spelling of “fem” or a catch all for anyone feminine, it can feel like an identity shaped by lesbian culture, gender, resistance, love, and community is being flattened into a term for a girly aesthetic.
This isn't about shaming anyone who didn't know. Queer history isn't exactly something most of us were taught in school. It's just a gentle reminder that our language has history, and learning where our words come from is one small way we can care for the communities that gave them to us.
I'll include some links in the replies with more important info on the history of the word femme. 🫶🏻
we’re doing makeup roulette to start off the subathon on sep 12, so if anyone feels inclined to get any makeup off my throne so i can expand my options that would be sick :D
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as always NO pressure and i appreciate you all 💗
Oh hi, I'm Demi! ❤️ I love baking, singing, NIN and metal, gothic horror, writing fiction, journaling, and customising monster high dolls. I adore bunnies and bats, moonlight, vanilla tea and the colours pink black and purple! My favourite game of all time is Dead by Daylight ❤️
‼️ Happy to announce the 🎮 Gaming Intermission Host for the 💫 2026 Rising Stars Awards Show!!
🎀 PerfectlyPersie (she/they) ✨
You can find them at @PerfectlyPersie or check out their links here: https://t.co/s1uAyC8SMm
Learn more about them below ⤵️
Happy International Dog Day! 🐶🩷🖤
Extra love for all service dogs today! 🐕🦺♿️
These cuties are hardworking accessibility aids giving their handlers more independence, safety & freedom every single day.
When the vest is on, admire the doggo from afar! 🐾
stream schedule 💜week of August 24 - August 30
Wednesday at 6:00 PM EST - Dead by Daylight
Saturday at 6:00 PM EST - Dead by Daylight, Sandbag Saturday with @SOFTHAUNT
a reminder to all of our lovely disabled ccs comparing their content output to abled ccs
disabled creators often have less usable hours in our day than others. so much of our time is spent doing treatments, pacing, and resting after flares. be gentle with yourself 💗
- cora
a tip for #AccessibilityAugust - check your color palettes and graphics with color contrast checkers to make sure they're WCAG compliant!
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Hey guys! Just a little update! We have 1 team spot available for Beacon of Hope! This team spot is only open for Sunday so if your Sunday October 18th is free and you have a team Signup here! ---> https://t.co/BJdav3xkiC
manifesting that i get back to my old ccv by 2027 💞 & that i find my place in the community again 💞 my long hiatus due to life destroyed all my momentum but we will get it back 💞 (im also making an effort to try & hang in streams again!! i miss everyone!!) 💞
I just want to say, getting to collab with so many Hauntlings recently and hanging out and yapping in our discord server/in streams has really showed me how BADLY I needed friends who just get it + also care deeply about making spaces accessible for their communities.
I'm so grateful for all of the team members, our discord staff team, and of course, my bestie/co-founder @itsmoricora. 🩷
This last year has been filled with a lot of grief for me, personally. My health started declining fairly rapidly, I was in flare ups more often than not (which I'm still struggling with that, but I'm on more meds now which is helping a good bit,) and I was heavily mourning my life before my illnesses completely took over.
I do still mourn my able-bodied life everyday, but I am at a place now where I'm giving myself grace, and learning to use my lived experiences to help advocate for others.
@SOFTHAUNT has shown me that disability & accessibility advocacy is so much more needed and for so many more things than I ever imagined, and getting to meet and become friends with all these amazing creators, all with their own unique lived experiences, who share the same love for accessibility inclusivity, has filled me with so much happiness.
Just this past week I've played with Cora, @oatmilkin@cheekykuromi@GamingGrayce and @miaucherie and I can't wait to get to play with everyone else!!!
You are all so creative, kind & understanding & I am SO happy to know yall, and I'm so excited to do amazing, beautiful, good things with all of you!!!! 💖💖💖
PS. @cheekykuromi and @oatmilkin are ABSOLUTE DEMONS with a flashlight/flashbang 😋