A person can speak beautifully about discernment while never examining their own patterns. They can talk about who has access to them while ignoring how they handled the people who once had it.
Some people will eventually learn that you can lose someone who knew you deeply and still had enough love for you to keep your private moments private.
That kind of love is rare. And once it’s gone you don’t get to recreate it with somebody else.
The right people will recognize your heart without needing an explanation. You don’t have to campaign for people to understand you and you don’t have to chase people who have decided not to see you clearly.
Your reputation is who people think you are. Your character is who God knows you are. And eventually the private person always catches up with the public person.