Stanislav Eirikh

Professional Coach | They write to me when they need strength

[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

It's easy to check this, you have to listen to what words, whose words, and phrases, and tone my inner voice speaks to me when I'm wrong. Whether it supports me or drowns me out, tells me I'm going to make it or tells me I didn't do a good enough job.

[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

How I treat my child determines how he will treat himself. There is no one else to teach him.

[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

The way my parents treated me determines how I treat myself now for the rest of my life.

[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

To be a good skier, you need someone to teach you how to ski. To swim well, to swim professionally, you need to have a good coach. To treat yourself well or poorly, you need to be treated well or poorly. That's something you have to learn, too.

[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

A young child's destiny is fully formed by the age of 6. Because by the age of 6, his self-esteem is fully formed.

[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

Manipulation creates a vacuum in front of the person that they want to fill. And then when we grow up, we look for people who will manipulate us. And that will give us strength, will give us traction.

[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

Because the child has a process, a mechanism of compensation. The child wants to prove the opposite. He wants to prove that I am not the way my parents see me. I am not, I am better.

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[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

The more the parents manipulate the children, the more it causes the parents' importance in the eyes of the child.

[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

This is the worst thing you can do to a child is to compare them to other people or to put yourself as an example to them. It only causes anger and absolutely smears self-esteem.

[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

When we compare a child, we give him a clear confirmation that he is bad. This is where the artifact of someone being good and someone being bad comes in.

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[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

One of the techniques of combat NLP is very often used by parents when they compare their children.

[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

There is such a section in NLP: Combat NLP. It's actually not very pleasant, one might even say disgusting. Especially disgusting are the people who want to master it in order to manipulate others somehow.

[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

That is the main task of parenthood, the main difficulty - to be able to preserve this precious good that is in the child and not go crazy.

[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

We suppress the free man in him now, in the hope that the free man will grow up later. And that's not going to happen.

[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

But the thing is, that set, it's so valued now at our age and you and I and so unappreciated at a child's age. Because he's so much trouble.

[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

He has spontaneity, he feels his desires, he doesn't want to do what he doesn't like, he wants to do what he likes--that's just the set of a happy person.

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[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

The child has all the necessary data to grow up to be a good person. Only one thing is missing. He has sincerity.

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[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

And you'll realize that you're not responsible for that until later. And only you are responsible for it, for your relationship with the child.

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[Stanislav Eirikh @StasEirikh]

You think about how much more realized they are now than you are. You're missing the most important thing at this point, the connection with the child.