Steven N. Peskind

Chicago-area family law attorney, teacher, Author: Family Law Trial Evidence Handbook and Divorce in Illinois. Best Lawyers 2015 Lawyer of the Year.

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@raifordpalmer Wise words!

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In 1903, Jack London published a newspaper column with advice for young writers.

It is full of gold.

I've panned it for you and picked out 9 golden nuggets: 🧵👇

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@raifordpalmer Spot on, Raif.

[Codie Sanchez @Codie_Sanchez]

Divorce is awful, here’s true lessons from going through it...

1. Marrying well is the biggest life hack of all.

2. Marrying poorly is a costly path to misery. Choose wisely.

3. When someone gets divorced I often say, “I’m sorry and congratulations.” Usually there is pain and freedom.

4. Money makes people a shell of themselves during divorce, do not fall to that level. You can make more money later.

5. There is always an exit tax on freedom, expect it.

6. Careful of shadow influences, people who whisper in the ear of your former spouse fear and pain that can take an amicable divorce and turn it into a nightmare.

7. Find someone who has walked the path before you, taboo subjects will leave you feeling lonely and alone.

8. It is going to be ok. If you learn from this, you will be better. And likely so will your spouse.

9. Mediation, arbitration, trial. Avoid trial at all costs, try for mediation. Cheaper, faster, less contentious.

10. Find an attorney who lists on their website they help do divorce amicably, if one spouse has a wartime attorney, it will turn into war. Try to avoid that.

11. Grab your loved ones close. A place to stay, a friend to wake up to, a person to watch movies into the night.

12. Don’t allow anyone to shame you. Of course you wanted it to work, hopefully you tried hard. Those who secretly want divorces are often the loudest to yell at you for your choice.

13. Tears. You will shed a lot of them. It’s ok.

14. Find something to look forward to, a trip, a project. You can get lost looking at the past, look forward.

15. You can find incredible love and commitment after this, I did. It will take work but it will be worth it.

16. Write daily and often. Pain will be repeated until you learn from it.

17. If no one else says this to you, and you have given it your all, and your marriage is truly not right… you are making a very brave move. Hold your head up.

18. You will lose friends. They will choose sides, they won’t all choose yours. BUT the real gems for you will.

19. People will talk about you. Who cares.

[David Senra @FoundersPodcast]

Michael Jordan ran towards pressure:

“Mostly he tested himself.

It seemed that he discovered the secret quite early in his competitive life:

the more pressure he heaped on himself the greater his ability to rise to the occasion.

Most people run from stress.

Run to it.

Stress keeps you sharp, it challenges you in ways you never imagined and forces you to solve issues and manage situations that send weaker people running for cover.”

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@asymmetricinfo East of Eden by John Steinbeck will fit the bill

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President Kennedy’s state funeral was held 60 years ago today on November 25, 1963. Historian Fredrik Logevall discussed one of the personal touches Mrs. Kennedy arranged for the ceremony in our latest episode of “Let Us Begin.”

https://t.co/P38Pks13AV

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@AlexAndBooks_ READ. Thank you

[Judge Roy Ferguson @JudgeFergusonTX]

New study shows what judges have reported anecdotally for three years and confirming NCSC study results: SRLs report higher satisfaction rates with remote proceedings than in-person, and fewer technological difficulties than feared. Remote court access *is* access to justice.

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@LakotaMan1 Yes!

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Deadbeats Beware! Peskind Law Firm Successfully Spearheads a Child Relocation Based on Child Support Delinquency https://t.co/6BxmPSUsRR

[Gary Snyder @GarySnyderQuote]

Read carefully, then don't read; work hard, then forget about it; know your tradition, then liberate yourself from it; learn language, then free yourself from it.
Finally, know at least one form of magic.

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@vibrantdad Grass is greener.

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@FoundersPodcast 1. Churchill
2. Lincoln
3. Hemingway
4. John Lennon

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Dealing with Gish Gallopers in court https://t.co/9SEqf5zHvj

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@JudgeFergusonTX It reminds me of the old observation, “criminal lawyers, see the worst kind of people on their best behavior and divorce lawyers see the best kind of people on their worst behavior.”

[Juliette Kayyem @juliettekayyem]

There are similarities: people and families in crisis, shock and sadness, difficulties in how to "measure success" (riding happily into the sunset is not an option.) The lawyers try to make things "less bad," a theme of my book. It made sense to me. 2/

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@ernieattorney Picasso

[Benjamin Carlson @bfcarlson]

In 1977, Jorge Luis Borges, one of the most influential 20th c. Spanish-language writers, told William F. Buckley (whose first language was Spanish) his reasons for feeling, age 78, that English was 'far finer' than his native tongue. Right or wrong, I love his savor for language