This was our 8 year anniversary gift to each other and nothing could top this night. Met amazing people, raged, had emotional moments. Just so unreal @KiDCuDi 🤟🏽we love you💕
She just reverse-engineered the psychology of every high-performer who can't turn off.
You can't tell a firefighter to nap. Their entire identity is built around staying alert when everyone else is asleep. Telling them to rest triggers the same resistance as telling them to quit.
"Let's watch a show" works because it reframes rest as togetherness. He didn't agree to sleep. He agreed to spend time with her. Sleep was just the side effect.
The best people in your life don't argue with your stubbornness. They just build a trap you walk into willingly.
I worked with male GYN surgeon one time who was annoyed and rushing through his 23 year old patient's critical ovarian surgery because he wanted to get home before 3pm. Mind you she just had a miscarriage and this surgery was to try and give her a chance at having kids.
One of the most difficult, and freeing, parts of therapy is when the rose colored glasses finally come off. The realization that the people, places, and things of my life are so different from what I had naively created in my head. When survival turns into living.
It always checks out that I be denying access to the right ppl.. even if it’s just a feeling I have. Everybody can not and does not deserve to be in your energy at a certain time.
I would personally not allow this for my child, but we gotta stop acting like we can relate at all. Most kids who live in a rich/wealthy lifestyle do these things and it's normal. She's surrounded by girls her age doing the same exact thing, but it's only a problem when it's her.