After reading countless books, I'd say the greatest piece of self help advice is: ask and you will receive, seek and you will find, knock and the door will be opened to you. I can think of no words that can transform your life better than these.
When Carl Jung said:
“No matter how isolated you are and how lonely you feel, if you do your work truly and conscientiously, unknown allies will come and seek you.”
Your brain turns repeated avoidance into fear. The first time you avoid a task, it feels like relief. The fifth time, the same task feels scary. Avoidance trains fear to grow.
"Walking away from something unhealthy shows great bravery, even if you stumble a little on your way out of the door." - Vex King (Good Vibes Good Life)
If you look back you will notice that you have faced all the events you were afraid of facing, but look in the mirror that motherfu*ker is still alive.
He is more Experienced
He is Stronger
He is more Deadly
And, more Hungry
The universe doesn't allow perfection. Without breaks and gaps there would be no growth. Nature depends on imperfection. Fault lines make mountains, star implosions become supernovas and the death of one season creates the rebirth of the next.
Stop chasing perfection
Mental strength is not just hoping that nothing ever goes wrong. It is believing that even if it goes wrong, you have the capacity to handle it if it does.