I have a friend in their late 30's that if they retire today they will be able to live off of $150,000 a year for the NEXT 40 YEARS!!!! do the calculations. He has been saving for retirement for 20 years..
The reason why you don't like your dad is because of your mom. Reflect on the times she spoke about him to YOU! you were so young you didn't know better so you took your mom side because she painted herself like the HERO! When the whole time pops was fighting.