Reducing what goes on in a boyโs head on his birthday to fake maturity is an evidence to how insensitive the other gender can be to a boy, many times even in relationships.
For boys, a lot of expectations are attached to age
While birthday is a call for studio photoshoot for some
for many boys, new age is a reminder of the apartment of their own that they should have had
Itโs a reminder that they are getting too old to be where theyโre financially, academically and relationship wise etc
On a normal day a boy could just sit and start thinking of how to move forward in life, that thinking is more intense on a birthday
So if they donโt send a picture of themselves as broadcast to all contacts on WhatsApp group for a repost, itโs not a flex
They are grateful for life, but when they have something truly worth celebrating they wonโt hold back
Itโs not fake maturity, we are usually on a date with reality and reality is not friendly.
The difference is that a fat man knows that heโs fat. When we call our fat male friend names like biggie, opom, they answer, they also joke with it.
A fat man will write โyoung biggieโ at the back of his newly purchased jersey. Most fat men know itโs time to hit the gym. Fat men know the reality, they embrace it, they live with it.
Now you see fat women, they create different phrases to keep being delusional. Names like, body positivity, plus-size, chubby. When in reality we all know that thereโs nothing positive about being fat, we all know how dangerous it is to the health.
Hit the gym today, Fatty
Akwa Ibom Police Command has arrested three masquerades for inflicting injvries on residents. The gods go do Christmas and New year inside cell kee? ๐ญ
I normally don't pay too much attention to trending matters here. I just post my stories, engage with those who fw it, and block the trolls.
But this particular topic is something else, and we need to be honest with ourselves because we are setting a dangerous precedent.
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โLately on twitter and tiktok, we have normalized influencers and public figures using the Police to arrest, detain, and humiliate critics or trolls under the guise of actions have consequences. We cheer. We are crusing with it, These banga boys have gone too far! Teach them a lesson!
โAnd yes, the trolls have gone too far. The defamation is vile. The cyberbullying is wicked. But we are making a grave mistake by applauding the bypass of Due Process.
โLet's not forget that Jungle Justice started the exact same way. It didn't start with burning innocent people. It started because communities felt thieves had crossed boundaries. It started because the Police were ineffective, so people said, Let us handle it ourselves. We clapped. We said, Thieves deserve no mercy.
Fast forward to today: Jungle Justice has metastasized. Now, an innocent man can be set on fire in broad daylight just because he had a misunderstanding with a debtor who decided to scream Thief! to mobilize a mob. The tool we sharpened to kill the monster is now being used to slaughter the innocent.
โLook at the Believe All Women movement. It started from a place of necessary correction. Rape culture was a plague. The justice system was failing victims. So society shifted to Guilty until proven innocent to protect women.
We clapped. We said, Protect us and our sisters. But because we removed the filter of Due Process in the court of public opinion, we have now seen instances where innocent men rot in prison or lose their livelihoods over false accusations weaponized by bitter partners. The pendulum swung too far, and it knocked down the pillars of fairness.
โThe danger of normalizing Self-Help justice is that Power has no morality. Today, you cheer because an Alabi arrested a troll who insulted his Wife.
Tomorrow, a Politician will arrest you because you tweeted that his road project is substandard, and he will claim it is Defamation and Cyberstalking. You cannot tell him it is wrong, because you established the precedent that Disrespect justifies Arrest.
โWe are setting a dangerous standard where the definition of Justice is determined by who has the bigger muscles, the bigger bank account, or the bigger connection to the DPO. When we normalize decadency because a certain group is pushing boundaries and going too far, we are not fixing the system; we are merely arming our future oppressors.
โThe law is tedious. It is slow. It is annoying. But it is the only barrier between Civilization and the Jungle