I’m so embarrassed by all the pathetic and desperate shit I’ve done in an attempt to feel loved, and I’m more embarrassed that nothing has ever worked.
The most unfortunate part is that some men watched their mothers be overworked, underappreciated, and forced to carry entire households alone, then grew up expecting the same level of sacrifice from the women they date. Somewhere along the way, survival became the standard instead of something to protect women from.
The problem is a lot of yall niggas did not grow up seeing your moms be pampered.. yall either saw y’all mommas working like dawgs, on drugs, with an abusive ass man or collective government assistance struggling to make ends meet.. a lot of y’all grew up with all half siblings and absent fathers, so you genuinely don’t know what the man’s role is supposed to be and that’s why a lot of yall can’t fathom giving a woman a soft life and being a provider bc you grew up believing women are supposed to be strong and take care of you! A lot of you niggas don’t even know to hold the door or walk on the outside of the sidewalk bc the only protector you ever had was a woman! Lmao
@euphoriaHBO Sam time to retire after this absolute shit show of a season. Please never make a movie or tv show again. Thanks mate for that waste of time
Nobody tells you how hard it is to rewire your brain so you can allow amazing things to happen to you after so much trauma or hurt. Blessings exist, good people exist, a softer life exists. Let it happen.
I don’t think people really understand that there is no coming back from certain things. Some damage does not get undone, and once it changes how you see someone, that’s it. Not everything deserves a second chance, no matter how sorry they are.
Im not gonna lie, I don't care about "feeling seen" at work . As long as that check is "seen" hitting that bank , im good. I really just wanna do my job and go home.
I’ve noticed that sometimes a woman can be deeply affected by how she’s treated in a relationship, and over time, she may not seem as ‘fun’ as she once was. Then she’s compared to someone new who hasn’t experienced that history. It’s easy to overlook how much our actions can shape the person we’re with.
you cannot get mad at your partner for expressing what upsets them.. even if it isn’t deep to you it may be a serious matter to them. genuine consideration is the key.
My final act of love is removing myself from your life so you can lust over random women without me standing in your way. Hope that’s better than having someone love you on the daily.
Nothing ruins a relationship faster than watching your partner show up for everyone else in ways they never show up for you. It proves they have the capacity but not the desire to do it for you.
My therapist told me:
“When a person grows up feeling unseen, they learn to love by over-giving. They pour into everyone else, hoping that, one day, someone will finally pour back into them. So they become the care taker. The fixer. The one who shows up, even when no one shows up for them.”
And the hardest part? Deep down, they're not trying to be strong. They're just waiting for someone to do for them what they've spent their whole life doing for everyone else.
Some things don't go back to normal, even after an apology. Once you’ve seen how someone can hurt you, you can’t unsee it. You can forgive and even laugh together like nothing happened, but a part of you will always remember how it felt, and that changes everything.
I heard a therapist say, “Your feelings are always valid, your behavior is not.” She explained by saying feel what you feel BUT you need to be accountable for what you do as a result of those feelings.
One of the hardest things a mother carries is the guilt of choosing the wrong father for her child. You do everything you can to give them love and stability, but sometimes you still wish they had the dad they deserved.