Mr T

Husband & Proud Dad, I help with clarity, closure and healing through honest conversations.

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[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

Peace in any relationship
comes from being intentional.

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

If you are in a relationship where your emotional vulnerability is constantly dismissed as weakness, especially when you are reacting to pain caused by the other person, that is not a healthy place to be. At some point, you need to step back and seriously reconsider your options.

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

Prayer actually works for a many problems in marriage but not without effort. A successful marriage requires intentionality, commitment and consistent effort from both partners. Without intentionality, success will be hard to achieve. You could still apologize immediately and your husband may still be hurt by what happened. Healing takes more than words, it requires patience, understanding and actions that rebuild trust. The real wisdom lies in knowing how to balance effort with prayer. Pray but also do the work. Put in the effort, then back it up with prayer. Prayer without effort is brings futility, just as effort without wisdom can be ineffective.

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

If you have to constantly beg to be seen and heard, break away from that space

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

Having a giving heart is a gift. If you don't have it naturally, it is very difficult to force it.

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

Till today, I still get flashbacks from May 14 2003 when Pavel Nedved scored the goal that gave edge to the aggregate score against Real Madrid in the semi final. We have won many trophies since then, but I still wonder why that moment keeps coming back to me.
Football is powerful and losing can be brutal. Some defeats stay with you for years and never truly leave your mind. How many years be that? 23yrs ooo. I stopped watching football though. Make e no give me BP. I just deh follow scores now, I'm honestly rooting for arsenal..

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

Be careful who you build a future with. A man or woman who does not support your vision can become the biggest obstacle to your growth.

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

Some people go into therapy believing they are the problem, only to come out with clarity. That is when they begin to realize they have been used, manipulated and abused all along.

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

Many people are not looking for solutions alone, but they are also looking for someone who understands the weight they have been carrying.

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

@X Posting is therapeutic but algorithm is not favoring some of us. Any solution to that?

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

Do not get too comfortable with forgiveness. One day, someone may get tired of forgiving the same pain over and over again.

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

The people who judge others the most are usually guilty of the things they criticize others for

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

The moment things go bad, you are thrown away like you never mattered. Always focus on yourself.

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

Any man or woman who refuses to admit their mistakes and constantly looks for ways to defend their actions is not worthy of your time. Stay away from such people.

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

Pain is inevitable, sometimes that's where you find your true purpose

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

Why should it not be in 2 months of their marriage? Maybe they weren't just ready, right? or it happened naturally at the right time, Do you even have an idea of what it takes to get pregnant? People are silently dealing with a lot of issues in life, things they can't share with anyone. Honestly you can do better.

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

That was someone who has become too used to getting things easily and taking them for granted. Honestly, regardless of gender, having a healthy baby should be enough reason for gratitude.
Maybe she should speak with parents raising children with congenital disorders or Down syndrome. Maybe then, she would better appreciate the blessing she has already.

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

Life has a way of teaching unforgettable lessons. Learn from the experiences and mistakes of others because some personal mistakes come with consequences that you may never recover from.

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

I agree with you, as long as it's not forced and there is no form of coercion, manipulation, or blackmail from the man involved. If any of those exist, then the husband has every right to take proper action. Sometimes, the silence of a husband who knows the man his wife is cheating with can even be more dangerous than direct confrontation because no one truly knows what his next step or reaction might be. At the end of everything, it's your wife that owes you commitment, honesty and accountability. You either forgive, stay and work through it together, or you walk away peacefully.

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

@Starrgirl_Ada Gone are the days when girls used to be ashamed of dating married men, now they flaunt them their Whatsapp status with "my boo" caption.

[Mr T @TheSafeTherapy]

In relationship, I hope you understand that if you truly love and respect your wife or partner, disagreements and arguments are sometimes part of healthy communication until both people eventually reach a resolution. Your partner is not your slave or a robot that simply follows instructions without emotions or opinions. You only ignore someone you don't care about. You are placing so much pressure and expectation on men, constantly telling what to do and how to do it