Tutu_smith

Radio Host -Hot 98.3|Event Host| Lover of good music & good conversations Soft life, Very loud thoughts

[Tutu_smith @TheTutu_Smith]

Hi, I’m Tutu…..radio host, event host & certified lover of good music.

[Ada @iitssAda]

I really admire how men leave the moment they're unhappy regardless of who it hurts. I want that level of selfishness

[feyisayo 💸 @feyiszn]

life has a way of punishing you for being a little too nice and forgiving.

[MAMA NASTY. @_DimphoM]

I simply do not hold space for men who do not believe in treating women delicately, even as friends. Especially as friends.

[Ada🌸 @Starrgirl_Ada]

Imagine not living your best life because you want to be called wife material

[CHUKS 🍥 @ChuksEricE]

“Tunde Ednut, Gossimill, Yabaleft, Cutie Juls, Gistlover and many other bloggers in Nigeria, it’s time to wrap it up. The country is facing serious challenges and, at this point, we don’t want to keep seeing posts of girls dancing or celebrity weddings anymore. We want to be seeing updates about what is happening in Nigeria on your pages.”

— AlvinOfLagos calls out Nigerian bloggers.

[Youth in Process @Youthinprocess]

@ChuksEricE @elim_olima Day 13 of PVC registration

[🧃👑 melo @bevkingmelo]

@HoopsCrave

[Yetunde Omobolanle✨ @Divayetty1]

I don’t even know how this is going to come off, but as a woman, especially a Nigerian woman, there’s something we need to really unpack about the way we are conditioned.

A lot of women are raised to be extremely agreeable, docile, soft-spoken, and constantly aware that “someone is above you.” Whether it is your father, husband, uncle, older brother, boss, or just men generally. That conditioning does something to your brain over time.

Because if you think about it, correction is something society naturally associates with children. A child is the one that gets disciplined. A child is the one that gets scolded, controlled, or physically corrected.

So it is deeply disturbing that grown women are still being treated that way. A grown woman is being beaten, slapped, controlled through fear, humiliated, violated, and somehow society still expects her to remain calm, respectful, submissive, understanding, and morally upright through all of it. Eww.

And many women have not fully mentally separated themselves from that “child position” society placed them in. So even in the face of violence, they still respond from submission instead of self-preservation.

And I’m not saying violence is the solution to violence, but when people say things like “hit back” or “fight back,” what they are really saying is: stop seeing yourself as powerless. Stop seeing yourself as somebody people can violate without consequence.

The reason women freeze, tolerate abuse, or keep enduring violence is not because they enjoy pain. It is because somewhere deep down, society has conditioned them to believe authority over them is normal.

So when somebody raises their hand to hit you and you still stay there trying to preserve morality, preserve respectability, preserve peace, preserve “good woman” behavior, it says a lot about how deeply obedience has been wired into women.

There is no reason in hell a grown adult should be putting their hands on another grown adult and walking away like it is normal. I don’t care if it is your father, husband, boyfriend, or anybody else. Violence should never be normalized as “discipline” once you are a grown woman.

At some point, women have to mentally free themselves from the belief that they are still children people can control physically. You’re not a freaking child, fight back and exit the situation!

[uniq @ethrealuniq]

“men are naturally polyga….”
blocked.

[Oola™ (Olasunkanmi Abimbola Olanihun) @Oolah_Ola]

To be honest, I’ve noticed something —
a lot of people hide behind words like “resilience” when giving advice.

But sometimes it ends up dismissing what people are actually dealing with.
You’ll hear things like “you’re not trying hard enough” or “you’re not resilient enough”…

when the reality is that the landscape today is very different.
It’s one thing to encourage people to push through.
It’s another thing to ignore the reality they’re pushing through in the first place.

I don’t think it’s too much to expect a bit more awareness and kindness, especially in times like this.

[Swarada Deshpande (Chiu) @SwaradaDes23902]

@Solyricon Then remember there are 4.2 billion single men on this planet

[yimika| @yimikaaaa]

I wish I was super duper rich cause I really love gifting people. It’s just makes me so happy. One of my favourite love languages.

[yimika| @yimikaaaa]

Ending someone’s access to you permanently is a form of power, not avoidance.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Giving your partner a break from decision fatigue is a love language. Removing someone's mental load is the highest form of consideration.

[Fiona @heyfionaai]

DURING JOB INTERVIEW:

"Why are you leaving your current role?"

Most candidates say: "I am looking for more growth opportunities and a better company culture."

THE WINNING ANSWER:

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

Some of you are refusing to enter into a relationship because you've been hurt in the past, and you're afraid of giving your heart to another person whom you fear would cause another heartbreak.

If you don't give someone an opportunity to love you, they can't love you. To love is to risk being hurt.

[Emeka @Emeneks]

This girls video has angered me!
The penalty for rape should be death!

And God will punish all of you that defend rapist!

[Tutu_smith @TheTutu_Smith]

@Crhedrys JCole and Tems

[Tutu_smith @TheTutu_Smith]

@Varticoo Hello ifb

[Tutu_smith @TheTutu_Smith]

@Varticoo Hello