self-sabotage is also
• not asking for help
• rejecting praise
• isolating yourself when hurt
• saying “yes” to everything
• putting your needs on hold
• procrastinating on important tasks
• watching too much news
• trying to be perfect
physical illness
“you are so brave”
“get well soon”
“how are you?”
*brings you flowers*
mental illness
“just think positive”
“stop being selfish”
“get over it!”
*silence*
what you say about your child is literally what they think about themselves. you are the first person to give them a hint about their identity. be selective in your choice of your powerful words
it’s hard to forgive people when they
• keep repeating the same mistakes
• think they’ve done nothing wrong
• blame you
• say they'll do better but don’t
• show no remorse
• push you to "get over it"
• haven't changed
turn on’s also look like
• having a deep convo
• receiving a compliment
• vulnerability
• smelling nice
• seeing your partner cook
• romantic gesture
• flirting
• confidence
• a partner taking on a task without you asking
• having something taken off your plate
notes to self
• you deserve so much more than you’re settling for
• you don’t need anyone’s permission to be you
• you have nothing to prove to people who doubted you
• the people who don’t support you are not your people
• you can manifest the life you want to live
some of the best advice I got from my
therapist was
1. i didn't have to accept being
treated badly just because I was related to someone
2. self-care was more important
than showing up to every event I’d been invited to
underrated compliments
• you have a beautiful soul
• you’re a good friend
• i love how you see good in others
• you’re so resourceful
• i feel safe around you
• i admire your strength
• the world is lucky to have you
• you’re so kind
• i enjoy your company
reality check
don’t spend $30 on fast food and
then tell me you can't afford the book |
recommended. don’t spend 3 hours
on social media and then tell me you
don't have 10 minutes to meditate.
you get out what you put in. period
it’s time for corruption to leave the chat. we need to take away the power of all the false politicians, celebrities, monks & media obsessed individuals by removing our attention to them & seeing them for what they are...con artists who don’t give a dam about you. let truth win
how to stop self-sabotaging
• understand how you do it
• understand why you do it
• find healthy alternative behaviors
• have a plan for dealing with challenges
• increase your tolerance for emotional discomfort
• get clear about what you really want
let’s normalize
• setting boundaries
• making mistakes
• asking for what we need
• standing up for ourselves
• admiring when’s we’re wrong
• trying new things & failing
• not having it all together
• celebrating each other
• showing compassion