(White) people in the west are seeing their world get worse and worse for a very chaotic complex of reasons, they are starting to feel threatened, and when presented with a scapegoat to falsely blame the problems on (immigrants/transgenderism) they take the bait.
What works for some, might not work for you. Try things, but don’t get beat if they don’t work for you. Trying is good. Clues about what would work for you could lie in your early years, were you intro/extraverted, etc. Ask your caregivers what you needed when you were young.