@Ascoyne It’s not bs. Im trying to help her come to the decision without making her feel pressured. She has been in love with him since day one and feels responsible and guilty.
Just got off 📞 with my cousin. Her husband who left her 15 yrs ago. Mid life He’s now 65 and has Alzheimer’s. Wants to come home so she can help him. She’s considering it. Her son hates him, told her she’s crazy. She asked my advice and I don’t know what to tell her. Input?
Thank you to all who answered. I’ve been looking into this and talking to her more about it today. Her son will not allow her to suffer any more emotional pain because of him than she already has. Seems to be more common than I thought. Sad.
@nancee_s After talking with her more this afternoon. She has let him step in and take care of this. He called his uncle and aunt, dad’s siblings, and told them they are going to have to either take him in or put him in a facility. I guess they have a legal judgment from when he left.
@Lindas_Here@smturnr1 I don’t know all of that but her son is handling it all I guess. Only one child and he is in his 40s he absolutely hates his father for what he did. And no he has no significant other. He just wanted to play and found out it wasn’t what he thought it would be.
@Marwilson@smturnr1 I’m going to have to ask her. I know he had some sort of a judgment against him with this home. She is still in the home they purchased and it’s paid off. He lives alone in an apartment.
@smturnr1 I am going to text her my opinion and care options she might explore for him. Because they never divorced she unfortunately has obligations she feels. Wether that’s a legal thing or not I’m not sure yet.
So what happened was, he got lost in the city they live in and was driving erratically. Cops called her (she was still his 911 contact) she took him home to his apt. Had an MRI and that was alarming. He failed other cognitive tests also. So it sounds advanced already.