Also I don't wanna be that person but many aces just agree to be involved in sexual scenarios out of pressure from their allo partners
And a lot of the time they don't realize it
So I think hearing that its okay not having to trade your body for romance is rather positive
@SofterEchoes Sex is a set of actions, some people can perceive it as trivial, while others perceive it as life-changing (for good AND bad), and we're supposed to respect each person's preferences
However, allo normativity makes aces feel as if their preferences must always be "negotiable"
@luna_yoiyoi Allo society puts sex as a main pillar for relationships, it takes a lot of work to deconstruct that view and it's an effort both allos and aces have to do in order to understand each other
But that part of queer discourse is still pretty niche, like asexuality as a whole
@nanatsukki Que bueno que saliste de ahí </3
Es muy difícil salir de esas situaciones, y toma un largo tiempo recuperarse
Me alegro un montón de que estés mejor 🫶
@aiboufueled Don't feel embarrassed that it happened to you, it's a really common situation to end up in 🫂
We all yearn for connection, and nobody taught us how to look for it without harming ourselves. You did a positive change, so be proud of your growth ♡
@gabem_p I've been saying that but damn, it shouldn't be this hot of a take 😩 If the person wasn't asexual it'd probably ring more bells because "hey, I'm having sex even though I do not want to" SHOULD GET A REACTION
@gabem_p YEAH exactly that, I see it very very often
And the comments are usually "wow you're so kind! You must love your partner so much!" And stuff 🙂↔️ doesn't sit right with me