Actual dating/going out to get to know each other is for extroverts.
Most introverts find someone they like, start building a connection with that person, and then eventually commit to them. Meaning, their first date is typically when they're already a couple or it's locked in that night.
Introverts are super (READ: EXTRA) observant and refuse to waste their time on even a friend date, if they know it won't serve them in any genuinely fulfilling way.
Usually, introverts don't need to introduce their partners to friends or get confirmation from family. And their family typically doesn't meet that person until months, sometimes years later.
Dating as an introvert means when you find the right person, you actually become an extrovert around them.
That's how you know it's real.
Trauma makes you please other people and drain yourself by focusing too much on how they feel and making sure they feel okay. Healing makes you realize it's not your responsibility to regulate their emotions, manage their insecurities, and pacify their inner wars.