according to psychology people who often talk to themselves build fake scenarios and have full conversations in their heads often assume it’s normal. but in reality, it’s a form of self regulation, away to process emotions when there’s no one who truly understands them. 1/5
A little girl in Boston went home one day and asked her Nigerian mother if she could change her name to Zoe.
Nobody at school could say Uzoamaka.
Her mother was cooking. She didn't even turn around.
"If they can learn to say Tchaikovsky, Michelangelo, and Dostoyevsky, they can learn to say Uzoamaka."
That girl kept her name.
Then she went to Hollywood and won three Emmy Awards.
And now the whole world knows exactly how to say Uzoamaka Aduba.
Your name is not a burden. It's a prophecy.
This is one of my favorite videos of all time. As a child psychologist, it’s a perfect example of joint attention, preverbal communication, and coregulation.
You are not "healed" just because you cut everyone off, blocked your exes, and sit in your room alone making aesthetic videos about "protecting your peace." True healing is only tested in the presence of triggers, conflict, and intimacy. Being peaceful because you actively avoid all deep human interaction isn't emotional growth; it is just self-imposed quarantine. You are still broken; you just removed the audience