OJ

Catholic||Architect||Conversation Partner||Fitness Enthusiast.
Just a modest sojourner here.

[Ghost Writer ✍️ @Prezain_LJ]

It’s easier to find happiness in little things when you are not the one paying.

“I had so much fun today. We should do this again.”

Why won’t you have so much fun, eeh fine girl? No be you them debit na.

On the average, a fine girl in this country has men at her beck and call to do these “little things” for her: shawarma, cinema, fixing of nails, birthday photoshoots, etc. Girl fit just dey bored now, text you with, “I’m bored, come and take me out,” and you will tell her to get ready and drive down to pick her up. Take her to a very decent place and she will have a great time, and when you guys are done, you drop her back at her place. Who is likely to find fun in this "little thing?"

I would encourage men to try to have fun too. Learn to enjoy life too. On your own, go on solo dates. Go to restaurants and eateries and eat. You mustn’t wait until a babe is involved to enjoy your own money.

Celebrate your wins, your birthdays. No be only women supposed dey celebrate am. Take life one day at a time. No allow, “Wetin dey make man sad na how to make am,” or, “I dey find generational wealth,” consume you. Don’t wait until you have the kind of money that you envisaged before you start living. Sadly, not everyone is going to make it or attain their desired life. You may die without ever knowing happiness if you live that way.

Learn to create your own little things and find happiness in them. No be everything be waste of money like you have come to believe. Take care of your looks, dress well, eat good, spend time with your family, experience fun that you can afford at that moment, live!

[Max The Airbnb Guy🏡 @Maxtheairbnbguy]

According to psychology, one of the most common mistakes people make in relationships is assuming that their partner thinks, feels, and processes the world the same way they do. This is called the false consensus effect. You project your own emotional patterns onto them. You assume that if they loved you, they would react the way you react, express love the way you express it, apologize the way you apologize. And when they do not, you interpret it as a lack of love. But that is not fair. People are wired differently. They have different attachment styles, different love languages, different coping mechanisms, different nervous systems. Your partner may love you deeply, but express it in ways that do not match your expectations. The key is not to assume. It is to learn. To ask. To be curious about how they experience the world. Because love is not about finding someone who loves you exactly the way you love them. It is about understanding how they love, and choosing to receive it for what it is.

[Fatai Ibrahim, RN,MSN 🇳🇬🇺🇸 @rundriveng]

“The Subsidy is Gone” or so they claim!

Millions of Nigerians still don’t know that Bola Tinubu’s government removed the fuel subsidy on paper but continues to pay it heavily behind the scenes.

Yet millions are suffering terribly because of this administration’s deliberate policies.
Take a listen 🎧 and inform the uninformed.

[Camus @newstart_2024]

Divorce attorney James Sexton said something that hit hard: our society distracts us from the fact that we’re all going to die, because if we really internalized it, we’d stop chasing a lot of the meaningless stuff that keeps the machine running.

After spending time in hospice, he realized the dying don’t talk about their stuff. They talk about the people they loved, the connections, the beautiful and painful moments. Everything else falls away.

There’s a finite number of times you’ll kiss your wife, hug your kids, or tell someone you love them. You don’t know the number, until it’s passed.

That finiteness is what makes it so precious.

[👑S.A.L.A.K.O🕊 @UnkleAyo]

This is what people don't want to acknowledge, especially if you're a man that's actively in the dating pool.

As a man, you're mostly initiating so let's do some rough calculation.

If you're on a dating app - an attractive man is netting at least 100 matches in a month.

You might end up distilling that to 10 potentials. You'll go out with one first which means you'll initiate.

A fine dining experience will set you back at least 150 - 200 euros. What you've spent doesn't guarantee the dinner ends up in a relationship. You might not even like the person. So case closed.

You propose to the next person? Still fine dining? Or you stop searching?

Women underestimate how hard it is for men in the dating pool.

So, my recommendation has always been simple.

If you like me enough to want to know me, we will keep it stupid simple.

A walk, a brunch, coffee, meet at the bar, picnic, go see a show.

If you want anything in specific like fine dining or a trip, we will go halves.

It is important to me that you commit EQUALLY in the early stages of us getting to know each other - that way I'm assured that I'm not one of your padded statistics to improve the aesthetics of your Instagram highlights.

At what age. God forbid.

[𝕾𝖎𝖗 𝕮𝖍𝖗𝖎𝖘 @eagleseyeinc]

if you spend all day at a fish market, you’ll leave smelling like fish, even if you never touched one

but spend your day in a perfume shop and you’ll carry the scent even if you didn’t buy anything, that’s how environment works. it rubs off, whether you realize it or not. stay around complainers and everything starts to look negative. stay around excuse makers and growth feels optional but get around people who move with purpose, you’ll feel it.

get around people who live in gratitude, you’ll start to see differently. the scent of your environment will always follow you.

[Appede_ @A_lettertomyson]

It's disheartening to see a country where the government fails to provide jobs, protect lives and property, and actively opposes individuals striving to create a better future for themselves and society.

Those who work hard to build something meaningful often face persecution from the government, which ultimately seeks to undermine their efforts without offering any support.

There seems to be something fundamentally wrong with the situation faced by the black man (Neo).

@jidesanwoolu is this how your government intends to support or reward hardworking youth building something legit?

We can be more, with the help of the government.

Doing this will only stop people from dreaming.

[Douglas Kendyson @KendysonD]

Hi @jidesanwoolu, @hanneymusawa

I'm deeply disappointed in your @lirs_govng team hounding Selar in the name of claiming creator royalty taxes. I turn 30 in Oct and I've spent the last 10 years building Selar, so this is what the youth mean by policies being created to crush growing businesses. We are the pioneering and largest creator company in Nigeria (Africa actually), and instead of being supported by the government, the LIRS team is keen on trying to scapegoat us to set a precident.

Beyond the huge numbers seen in the headlines, we are still a young company just trying to make our mark for the creator economy in a country where we've never been supported once, we're literally a bootstrapped company. In 2025 alone, we've fulfilled our tax obligation in almost 9 figures and we've never missed out on any of our tax obligation over the years. You can check the records.

We are a software company, we make our ecommerce software available to our thousands of creators in not just Nigeria but 13 other African countries and for that, we earn a small commission of 4%, most of which goes to our payment provider. This is the same business as shopify, teachable, e.t.c There is no reason LIRS is hounding us for a backdated 5% royalty fee on all sales when we've clearly explained our line of business to them and shared everything to prove we are not a royalty based business.

What they're asking us to do is raise our pricing to extort these funds from our creators which is odd considering our creators still pay taxes on their income. No creator company in the world charges as high as even 5%.

Also, less payment gateway charges we get 1-3% max, so where do we pay backdated 5% fees from?

The government would have to decide if it wants the Nigerian creative economy to grow or not.

This conversation is important to me because we pioneered this industry of monetizing digital products online in Nigeria and today we host over 400k creators selling using our platform.

This is an opportunity for the government to show it's committment to making Nigeria work for young Nigerians especially in the creator economy.

Time and money we should be spending investing into our business and it's growth for the GDP of this nation is being spent in long back and forth.

We can't catch up with the west if this is what we're facing at home. Above everything else, disputes like this are distracting from the real work.

If anything, for all our CSR contributions to the education system in the country with our Smart Hustle Anti fraud initiative and our other efforts, we should be getting tax rebates, but we're not even asking for anything but to be left alone to build our business.

Thank you.

[OJ @Tobe_OJay]

@itskirawhite @ill_process @Brysons_worldXD @AdoniCristian1 @ShamsCharania The same way the OP assumed shit about what Shams was dealing with and went ahead to shit on him

[Technical Ben @TechnicalBben]

Once you learn how to shop directly from China, E.g Temù or shien your wardrobe changes completely. Call me cheap I don't care I ain't rich, I don't do fraud.😭

It's knowing what to search for.

Here's my style after making plenty of mistakes.

1. T-shirts:

Skip 100% polyester unless you're buying gym wear.

Instead, search:
• 100% Cotton
• Combed Cotton
• Heavyweight Cotton
• 240-300 GSM Cotton
• Premium Cotton
• Mercerized Cotton

The heavier the GSM, the thicker and more premium the shirt usually feels.

2. Jeans:

Denim Jeans
Temu is surprisingly good for denim if you know what to search.

Search:
• Denim Jeans
• Cotton Denim
• Raw Denim
• Selvedge Denim (if available)
• 98% Cotton + 2% Elastane
• 99% Cotton

Avoid jeans with high polyester content. The more cotton, the better they'll age and feel.

3. Body-hug clothing:

Search:
• Ribbed Knit
• Modal
• Viscose Blend
• Cotton-Spandex Blend

They hold their shape much better than cheap polyester.

4. Hoodies
Search:
• 400 GSM
• French Terry
• Cotton Fleece
• Heavyweight Hoodie

5. Chains
Search:
• 316L Stainless Steel
• Titanium Steel
• PVD Gold Plated
• Vacuum Plated

These are far more resistant to fading than ordinary fashion jewelry.

6. Earrings
Search:
• 925 Sterling Silver
• 316L Stainless Steel
• Hypoallergenic
• Moissanite (if you're buying stones)

7. Scarves
Search:
• Mulberry Silk
• Silk Blend
• Cashmere Blend
• Wool Blend
• Viscose

Avoid the shiny, thin polyester scarves if you're after a premium look.

8. Loafers
Search:
• Genuine Leather
• Cow Leather
• Full Grain Leather (rare but worth looking for)
• Rubber Outsole

9. Sneakers
Search:
• Rubber Outsole
• EVA Midsole
• Breathable Mesh
• Leather Upper
• Stitched Sole

Pictures lie a lot

The description usually tells the truth.

Here's how I shop:

1. Read the material composition before anything else.

2. Sort by Most Orders or Best Selling, not cheapest.

3. Only buy products with lots of reviews or pictures or even better when a Nigerian has purchased it before they always tell the truth.

4. Read the 1-star reviews first. They'll tell you what the seller won't.

5. Look at customer photos, not the product photos.

6. Check the weight of the product. Better quality clothing is often heavier.

7. Read the size chart. Don't assume your Nigerian size matches.

8. If the title has words like "luxury," "premium," or "designer" but the material is 100% polyester, not everything but still move on.

Your best friend isn't the product picture.

It's the material, the reviews, and the customer photos.

That's how you separate the gems from the junk.

I hope this help.

Things are to expensive for a country this poor.

[Chetuya Chinagolum @Chetuyachinago]

It is highly interesting and deeply ironic that Nigeria is currently being paraded as having the "world's best-performing stock market."

To put statistical illusion into clear mathematical perspective, South Korea comfortably has over 200 publicly traded companies with an individual market capitalization exceeding $1 billion USD. In stark contrast, the total number of companies on the Nigerian Stock Exchange with a market cap exceeding that same $1 billion mark sits at a measly, fluctuating 11 to 18. Furthermore, the South Korean Stock Exchange is home to over 2,500 listed companies, whereas the entire Nigerian stock exchange is struggling to maintain even 150. To make matters infinitely worse, the annual revenue of just one single South Korean conglomerate, Samsung, comfortably exceeds the entire, devalued annual Gross Domestic Product (GDP) of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

So, it is obviously completely insane and deeply delusional to imagine that Nigeria is genuinely outperforming the rest of humanity in its actual economic output, industrial productivity, or stock market indices. Nigeria is currently the undisputed poverty capital of the world, where small businesses are collapsing by the dozens every single day. So that begs the question: what does this glowing market report actually mean for the ordinary people of Nigeria?

Well, for one, if a struggling, debt-ridden developing nation suddenly starts to heavily outperform advanced, highly industrialized nations on its stock exchange, it is actually a massive, flashing red indicator that the country in question is facing a severe and monumental hyperinflation. Nigeria is currently experiencing historic, record-breaking inflation, so this stock market boom is merely an indicator that wealthy oligarchs, institutional investors, and local investment banks have smartly recognized that if they hold their cash in standard bank accounts during this highly volatile period, they will lose their purchasing power every single day. Since they cannot easily access scarce foreign currencies like US dollars or Euros due to strict government currency controls, they desperately dump their fast-depleting Naira into solid, tangible local stocks like Dangote Cement, BUA Group, or MTN Nigeria just to preserve their wealth.

So, this triumphant news report that we are passionately commanded to celebrate is actually a terrifying warning sign that Nigeria is experiencing severe, runaway inflation. The local elites, corporate cartels, and bank directors are frantically tripping over themselves to buy blue-chip local stocks strictly to hedge against currency collapse, and this sudden, desperate surge in local demand has artificially driven up the prices of these shares to such a disproportionate, heavily padded percentage that on paper, it looks much more profitable to invest in the Nigerian stock market than in the highly productive, technologically advanced South Korean stock exchange.

Another major reason for this artificial stock market spike is the aggressive, reckless increase in interest rates by the Central Bank of Nigeria on behalf of the IMF and the World Bank. While this brutal rate hike has successfully collapsed thousands of local manufacturing businesses because commercial banks are now charging as high as 40% interest on business loans, it has also temporarily attracted a massive influx of volatile "hot money" from foreign speculators who are lending money to the Nigerian government by purchasing short-term treasury bills and sovereign bonds just to greedily exploit these high yields.

It is crucially important to historically emphasize that Nigeria is absolutely not the only developing country to be declared the "best-performing stock market in history." Mexico proudly achieved this exact same fraudulent title in the run-up to 1994, and it ended up almost collapsing their entire national economy into absolute oblivion. At the time, the Mexican government, acting on the strict advice of the World Bank, aggressively increased interest rates and adopted painful Structural Adjustment Programmes that triggered massive hyperinflation across the country. This temporarily, artificially increased their foreign reserves as yield-hungry international speculators dived in to exploit these high interest rates, causing their local real estate markets and stock exchanges to explode into a virtual goldmine for foreign investors. But this artificial boom did not even last for a few years. The moment the United States Federal Reserve increased its own interest rates, international investors panicked, liquidated their assets overnight, and pulled their hot money completely out of Mexico. This massive, sudden capital flight almost collapsed the Mexican Peso, forcing their desperate government to raise domestic interest rates to an astronomical 70%, but even this extreme measure was not enough to save the country from descending into total state failure. This was the exact moment Mexico was forced to accept a humiliating, sovereignty-destroying bailout from the IMF and the United States totaling a massive $57 billion. Exactly $20 billion of that came directly from the US treasury, but it came with the highly insulting, neocolonial condition that all revenues from the global sales of Mexican state-owned oil must be deposited directly into the Federal Reserve Bank in New York City as collateral to secure the debt, while the IMF forced even more brutal, structural adjustment programs on Mexico that the country has still not fully recovered from even to this very day.

So, while this stock market boom is currently being heavily marketed as another monumental, ground-breaking macroeconomic achievement by the Tinubu Administration, it is in reality extremely dangerous, deceptive, and reckless. Not only does it completely fail to reflect the actual, material reality on the ground, which is that Nigeria is currently the bleeding poverty capital of the world, but this exact, artificial economic bubble has the direct, terrifying potential to completely collapse the Nigerian economy, trigger massive capital flight, and permanently reduce the country to a subservient, bankrupt puppet state run entirely by the harsh austerity measures, economic dictates, and financial chains of boardroom terror organizations like the IMF and the World Bank.

[Sir Alex @AlexOriprite]

The Nigerian rental market needs serious reform.

Why is the advertised rent never the actual amount tenants pay?

Housing is already expensive enough. The endless additional charges are making decent accommodation even less affordable.

We need more transparency and a serious conversation about standardizing rental fees in Nigeria.

[ZAHEER! @iam_YCee]

Hope yall doing tribalism and bigotry can see that at the end of the day it’s still the Nigerian flag that’s on display.
The sooner our generation defeats the seeds of division that’s been sown amongst us, the sooner we can have a better country for ALL OF US 👏🏾⚡️

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

One of my friends said, "you have interesting view about marriage. But we know you to be a generous person. You don't even know how to be unkind. All this one you are forming that your woman will invest her money in the home, we know she will enjoy your money. Your guys and people you don't even know are enjoying your kindness. Haba!"

I just smiled and explained to him. I'll write down what I told him.

You are looking at it monetarily. It is not about money. I don't have any attachment to money. The only reason I want to be rich is to expand my reach of kindness. If I'm always kind to strangers and friends, then you should know my partner is enjoying my money too. But it is not about money, it is about commitment. Whether I need her money or not, is irrelevant. Her money must be invested in the home the way mine is invested in the home. I'll eat her money the way she is eating my money. The point is, where your money is, that is where your heart is. You cannot buy love and commitment by footing all the bills. Someone who isn't giving to you habitually, is not in love with you. It is not a male attribute to give, it is a love attribute. Odogwu is not a flex. The whole point of marriage, is to do life together.

Everything I have belongs to her and the kids. If she doesn't know that, it is disappointing. Remember the story of the prodigal son? The one that stayed with the father was angry the father forgave the prodigal son because he didnt know that everything the father had, belonged to him.

[AKIN-MADE @bibzyCarter]

My brothers and I have retired from one-sided relationships. We value reciprocity now. If that makes us princesses, so be it.

[Rita Sunshine @1RitaSunshine]

My mum is dying, please help retweet😩🙏

[iloveyourmummyjsyk @g4na_xo]

Asked her out.
She said "ew"

"Ew" backwards is "we"
"We" sounds like "oui"
"Oui" is French for yes

Great success❤️🙏🏽

[legalnaija @LegalNaija]

On a Friday evening in October 2021, Tunde Adeyinka was driving home from work when three police officers stopped his car on the Lekki-Epe Expressway.
He had done nothing wrong.
He had a valid driver's licence. Valid insurance. A car that was his, bought and paid for.
He had a laptop on the back seat.
That was enough.
What happened in the next four hours would cost him something that no court has yet found a way to fully restore. 🧵

[Dr Jason Philip. M.S., MCh @Jasonphilip8]

Ten Urology facts you should know:

1. Testicular cancer is the most common solid cancer in men of the age group: 15-35.

2. A Kidney can lose around 80% of its function, before you notice any symptom at all.

3. Blood seen in Urine is NEVER normal. Always investigate.

4. Smoking is one of the greatest preventable causes of bladder cancer. Muscle invasive bladder cancer is quite serious,& the treatment burden is overwhelming.

5. Most Prostate cancers produce no symptoms at all, till the most advanced stage. This is the most common male cancer in some countries & the 2nd most common male( after lung cancer ) cancer in other countries. A simple blood test called PSA, helps us a great deal in diagnosing Cancer Prostate.

6. Loss of the egg shape of testis, or a painless lump frequently noticed by his sexual partner is the usual presentation of Testicular cancer. Despite being an external organ touched & handled daily by the male,surprisingly it is often his sexual partner who first notices something abnormal.

7. Urinary stones in the Ureter( Urine tube ) can potentially produce the worst pain known to mankind. Pts often rate it as worse than labour pain or that of fracture bone.

8. Erectile Dysfunction in men without obvious risk factors, often precedes a Heart Attack by around 3 years( range is 2-5 yrs ). This is why, ED in a pt under 60, should prompt cardiovascular risk assessment.

9. Holding urine regularly for social reasons can harm your bladder over time.

10. Not every Urine infection causes burning pain on voiding. In elderly patients, UTI can present as confusion, falls or fatigue.
#MedicalStudents
#Urology

[Osaretin Victor Asemota @asemota]

Guy: Oga, I am getting married in Enugu and sending you an invitation.

Me: Congratulations! The only thing is that I won't make it as I hardly travel to Nigeria.

Guy: Oga, I know but you can send your transport fare.

I am still wondering how to respond. We are acquaintances and not close friends. He did something for me once and I was grateful. I am in his debt but this is unexpected.

If I was not going to be there, why should I send transport fare? I would prefer to help in another way and in kind. Wedding registries need to become more popular.

This brings another issue of the obligations friends and family impose without considering that you may have not included them in your plans and budgets. Any contingency budgeting I do is for medical emergencies and not needless events.

I have a policy of not doing any funeral contributions anymore. They have also stopped adding me on WhatsApp groups for those things.

One friend made me the Chairman of his Catholic church’s harvest twice. I have never been to the church. I warned him the third time he tried it and stopped giving.

I prefer to give with joy rather than to give with a grudge. I have far too many family obligations already to do charity. My closest friends know and understand this. Some even sent me money recently when they heard that I had surgery and was at home. I didn't ask them for it but I was very grateful. They know I would do much more for them when I can.

“Nothing impoverishes a man faster than unbridled generosity” - Prof Osuide.