I had a realization a few years ago that I don't need to figure out why this person is doing a certain behavior I dislike. All that matters is I know I don't like the behavior and I can leave
Iโm so talked out, im not addressing anything anymore. The answers you want are always in peopleโs actions. I no longer want an explanation as to why people chose to be weird when it comes to me. Your actions were enough for me to realize youโre not who I THOUGHT you were. Thanks
i can always tell when someone likes me more as an accessory vs an actual person bc the moment i go off script itโs a problem. iโm not being valued for my authenticity only my ability to placate you.
People have exactly a two-week limit on their sympathy. When you first break down, everyone is supportive. But if your depression lasts longer than a fortnight, they get incredibly annoyed.
โYou are not allowed to have long-term struggles. Society expects you to have a quick, cinematic breakdown, cry it out over the weekend, and bounce back to being productive by Monday.
โThe exact second they realize your depression isn't just a temporary mood swing but a constant struggle, the "take all the time you need" energy completely vanishes.
โThey stop checking in and start treating your mental state like a deliberate character flaw. You aren't struggling anymore; you are just "not trying hard enough" or "choosing to be miserable."
I've came to terms with the fact that I really am allowed to feel however I want to feel about any situation, without anyone else having to understand why I feel the way I do.