You cannot fix a broken generation of daughters until you address the bitter blueprints handed down by their mothers.
The modern obsession with financial entitlement wasn’t born in a vacuum, it was carefully handed down by a previous generation. A young girl will sit down and proudly tell her mother and sisters how her boyfriend treats her with pure respect, protects her peace and honors her, despite not having any money yet. But instead of celebrating that rare foundation, the group chat will scoff and look at her with deep disdain.
They will look her down and say, "Respect does not pay bills in this country" instantly teaching her to measure a man’s entire worth solely by the thickness of his wallet.
If the mother is late, other women in her life will gladly step in to plant that exact same seed.
We blame young women for being transactional, forgetting they are simply executing the survival script their mothers wrote for them.
Many of you young men have taken the privilege of having me on this app for granted.
You don't have sense when it comes to dealing with women.
And it's quite unfortunate that many of you do not have close relationships with your fathers.
You cannot be a happy man in life if you do not find a good wife and a good mother for your children.
And whether you like it or not, all these young girls that you're misleading, would be your future wives.
I come here every day, using myself as example to illustrate how you should lead women and treat them, but may be you think I am lying or deceiving you.
If you think that all these young girls that you're sleeping with, will not get married, you're joking.
They'll repackage themselves for other men.
And others that you didn't sleep with, will repackage themselves for you.
And then you'll see the wife that you married.
You can't escape it.
You keep spending money on young women like you're married to them, and making them used to a lifestyle that is not sustainable, and makes them prone to cheating, should such lifestyle stop coming.
Even if you marry a virgin, it's the same.
I pity you people ooo.
If your father (when he was dating your mother) treated your mother the way you treat your girlfriends today, most of you would not have good mothers.
And to make things worse, many of you are criminals or sympathetic to criminals.
When young men steal, young women will become prostitutes.
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Men by nature, never ever forgive cheating.
Those who decide to stay after catching their women are:
1. Stupidly in love, angry, but do not have the courage to let go of her.
2. Keeping the woman as a form of punishment & torture to her.
Either way, they're hurting themselves more.
And they'll gradually either become a beast or a vegetable.
And that woman will continue to punish them, cheat, and blame them for not having the courage to walk away.
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Now, “ti won ti ta”… I don't even know how best to interpret that. Just skip that part of you aren't Yoruba.
A grown man....once full of fire, once walking free under the sun....locked up like an animal in a cold, stinking cell.
The lights are off, the place smells like piss and regret, and he’s lying flat on that thin, rock-hard mattress,
eyes wide open, staring straight at the dirty ceiling like it’s gonna give him answers.
His stomach is still singing from the so-called “dinner” they served him earlier: something that even the hungriest street bingo would smell once and walk away from in disgust.
No taste, no nutrition, just enough to keep you alive so you can suffer another day.
Outside those walls, the world keeps spinning. Boys like Ronaldo are busy playing her vey hard like Wembley.
You start talking to yourself, making deals with God, swearing you’ll never be that dumb again. But the damage is done.
And the worst part? Deep down you know it was avoidable. You could’ve walked away. You could’ve seen her for the trouble she is.
But you didn’t. You let yansh cloud your judgment, and now the prison bars are your new reality.
But, I don't know why it's that way. Overly religious people are the worse wives, worse husbands, worse employee, worse bosses.
An overly religious wife will disrespect her husband but kneel to her pastor. She has the worse character at home, but the best character in church. She probably even goes early to clean the church without cooking for her husband and kids.
An overly religious husband will lose his mind at home, abuse his wife, starve his kids and convert the starvation to "fasting and prayers".. but stand on the alter to preach "peace" and "holiness".
An overly religious employee will break office rules just to attend a mid-week service. They'll come to work late, because they were awake for hallelujah challenge and slept very late. They'll complete the sleep at the office, and then expect their employer to overlook their haphazard and lackadaisical work.
An overly religious employer? The worse. They won't even employ you if you can't speak in tongues.
In church, we had a conference... and one woman was preaching about love. This is same woman that I didn't even know was my stylist's mum. You wouldn't even know she is married or have kids. I was even thinking she's widowed. She hardly ever smiles.
When she asked if anyone had a question. I indicated, and then I asked why we have never seen her with her husband, and why she's always frowning. She went chill.
Because honestly, she doesn't embody the love she preaches. She burnt her kids clothes, bought by her husband - their father, and made them Ankara so they don't "reveal" their bodies.
She fortunately or unfortunately passed away, and her kids now look so good. They didn't shed a single tear on her burial.
Overly religious people are wicked people. They're people who have been "tried" in life, and then resorted to God. Not because they acknowledge God as their maker and shield, but because they want God to solve their problems. When their problems aren't solved, they become more bitter and dangerous. But, they're deaconesses in church.
A lot of people only see the flashy lifestyle, they rarely think about the long-term damage fraud culture is doing to trust, relationships, and society.
One of the saddest things is how crime is gradually becoming normalized among some youths, even by people who should know better. When illegitimate wealth becomes attractive, genuine hard work starts looking foolish to many young people 👀
The scary part is not just the crime itself, but how easily society now excuses it when money is involved. A society that glorifies fraud today may eventually struggle to recognize honesty tomorrow.
Maximum Respect Sir Agba @jon_d_doe 🫡
When you see how our women have evolved, you realise the boys shaped them.
The Yahoo era gave uneducated and unskilled guys easy money. Internet became their tool to exploit hardworking people and the high trust and morality in Nigeria.
They damaged our image abroad while poisoning the mentality of many average women, taking advantage of the economic crisis. They oppressed the poor and snatched their women.
Now the world has tightened security. Many of those boys are broke or struggling due to advanced tech. Standards are now high.
The ones who couldn’t cope turned to kidnapping and armed robbery or they plus the yahoo.
Even the rich ones fear the social vices they created.Yet they want the girls to behave like before.
The same girls they spoiled when they had the chance.Karma is real. We made those hoes
If you are a graduate and already making money and you're dating a university girl.
I'll not pity you when you find out that she's cheating on you.
The university is where young men are supposed to find their future wives.
But you want to be intimidating them with your money.
There are other working class women like yourself that you should be dating.
But you want the ones that will be calling you to give them money for pads, food, hair and even airtime.
You cannot go and date the ones that do not necessarily need your money for survival.
32 year old you dating a 21 year old university girl.
I agree that most of them are greedy and want the baby girl life.
But it will not mostly go down well for you.
Let them go through the phase with their fellow university men.
If you missed meeting your wife while you were in the university, that's your fat luck.
Let them be and face ladies in your class or social cadre.
If you feel like fucking them, go ahead.
But don't go forming relationship with an obviously "handicapped" girl and be feeling like you have gotten the next best thing to slice bread.
You know what you're doing.
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Gentlemen,
Never be “open minded” about these things
- pregnancy photoshoot
- sharing of chores
- hyphenated name
- planning with a woman's money in mind
- too much friends
She is either in your or she gets out
Don't negotiate with terrorists.
Learn or learn the hard way
If her parents cannot afford it, a jobless student should not be seen wearing expensive wigs or hairs or phones.
It's either she's doing olosho as part time, or one stupid man is funding it.
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1. Study her mother.
2. Listen to what she's not saying more than what she's saying.
3. Study the behaviors of her friends.
4. Watch how she asks for money.
5. Study her online behavior.
6. Study how she dresses and how sensitive she's in exposing her body parts.
7. Watch what she says about her family and how she regards her father.
8. When you're with your friends, watch how she interacts with them and if she's always careless in talking.
9. If she is demanding that you to give her money for her mother.
10. If she comes to your house and takes your food home without asking you first.
11. If she's always begging your friends for money, or going to your neighbors to beg for something.
12. If she's always defending a woman that cheats or cheated and was caught.
AJD.
Women release oxytocin in sex.
Men release testosterone in sex.
A man only releases oxytocin if he is already in love.
This is why casual sex is so destructive.
If she keeps having sex with men who don’t love her, she conditions herself to use sex for manipulation.
This is the crutch of most of today’s relationship problems.
No matter how much a woman sleeps with him, if he’s not already in love, the likelihood of him wanting her for anything other than sex, becomes less unlikely over time.
Women think if they have sex enough times, he’ll change.
That’s why they have it backwards.
The value must be beyond sex.
That’s why “let’s keep it casual” is a lie.
Because chemically and physiologically, men and women are not the same.
How To Manage N100,000
First, do not invest what you cannot afford to lose. If that 100k is your last, it is not investment capital. It is emergency money. Put it in a high yield savings account like PiggyVest or Cowrywise first and breathe.
If you are stable, this is what makes sense at that size.
Money market funds. Stanbic IBTC, ARM, or Meristem all offer money market funds that currently yield between 20 to 25% annually. Low risk, liquid, and better than leaving it in a current account doing nothing.
Treasury Bills. You can access Nigerian T-Bills through your bank or platforms like Bamboo and Trove. Government backed, fixed return, and your capital is protected.
Dollar savings. With naira volatility being what it is, converting a portion to dollar through apps like Grey or Chipper and putting it in a dollar yield account protects your value while earning interest.
NGX stocks. If you want equity exposure, look at fundamentally strong companies. Dangote Cement, GTCO, Zenith Bank, and BUA Foods have track records. Start small. Diversify across two or three names.
Do not give it to a forex trader promising 50% monthly. It is not investment, it is a prayer point.
But if you implement a good quality Trading AI, then you are good.
How to get a bf to be committed?
1) don't be begging him money
2) don't let him suspect you're a cheat
3) show respect for your father & him
4) don't be seen with known runs girls
5) be domesticated
6) make him feel he's "wiser"
7) stop shaking bumbum online
8) be smart
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