I know a number of people who didn’t marry their “spec” but are in the healthiest marriages I know. Their spec was typically whatever was culturally deemed to be at the apex of the attractiveness pyramid when they were growing up. For a lot of guys in my generation, it was the music video “vixens” from the late 90s/early 2000s Hip & R&B music videos with ‘coke bottle figures’ and or light skinned eurocentric features. When it’s time to find a partner for the very serious endeavor of sharing a life with, that “spec” is simply inadequate as a measure of compatibility and that’s understandable. The foolishness though is communicating it as though their partner somehow didn’t measure up to their “spec” instead of simply admitting that the idea of their spec was stupid all along and a young boy’s lack of wisdom of what makes a good life partner.
Communicating publicly or even privately to your partner that they weren’t your spec to begin with may seem harmless, after-all you’re just being honest. But subconsciously, it’s an ego trip for you who “settled” and for your the partner, it’s a chip they will always carry on their shoulder that to you, they aren’t quite enough. They’re missing something you had always longed for, so much so that you still consider it to be your “spec”. It’s an unnecessary mind fuck and a cruel thing to say about somebody who is sharing a life with you. No matter how flowery you are with the compliments that come after. You’ve already knocked them down several pegs.
If the point is to say your spec changed then talk about the stupidity of having a spec to begin with. Because I’ve never heard anyone in these situations talk about character attributes being their spec, it’s always superficial stuff. Or speak about how meeting your partner opened your eyes to what true beauty is. Speak in ways that elevate and affirm your partner.
Today, we celebrate a woman of grace, strength, and unwavering faith. An extraordinary woman whose life beautifully reflects God's love, wisdom, and grace.
Your nurturing heart, quiet strength, and unwavering devotion to God and family have left an impact on so many lives. Thank you for being a pillar of support, a mother to many, and an inspiration to this generation.
May this new chapter be filled with divine favor, overflowing peace, renewed strength, and countless reasons to rejoice. We celebrate you today ma.
Happy Birthday to the Matriach of Dominion City Worldwide Mummy Sarah Ogbueli.
#DominionCity #DCLagosHq #HappyBirthday #June29th
I just want to say it here. If you, a professing Christian, hold those misogynistic views claiming women cannot pastor and lead a ministry, you’re closer to Islam than traditional worship.
God’s plan has always been for Men AND Women to do the works of ministry as HE calls them to, Joel 2:28-29. God spoke these days forth from the days when misogyny was the culture.
Dear Women in ministry, God won’t limit your reach/responsibility because of your chromosome.
Dear women, please, teach the full gospel. There is so much more to you than playing it safe in “marriage and children ministry”. If God called you specifically into that, do it and do it well.
However, I’m saying many women have found themselves restricted to “marriage and children ministry” because of cultural misogyny from the pulpit and the pews.
Women, DO IT ALL! You were given the Holy Spirit! Disciple the nations! Teach, preach, heal, cast out devils! Spread!
Today we celebrate our senior pastor, father, mentor, a beacon of hope and light to many, a trailblazer, a voice to this generation, a man after God’s own heart who leads with both passion and compassion.
A man of the Word, who doesn’t just teach Christ but lives Him daily. A man of unwavering faith, who stands firm regardless of the season. A man of vision and divine insight, who sees beyond the now and leads us into purpose. A man who carries grace with strength, and authority with humility.
Thank you for pouring into us tirelessly. Thank you for teaching truth without compromise, and for showing us what it means to follow Christ wholeheartedly.
All of us at Dominiom City Lagos HQ celebrate you today and always. Your impact is seen, felt, and forever cherished. Happy Birthday Dr David Ogbueli
The grave is empty. Victory is complete.
Today, we celebrate the power of the risen King.
This is the morning that changed everything.
The Cross was not the end, the resurrection is the story.
#globalcampmeeting2026#HappyEaster
Having sex too early with a woman after birth can cause infections, bleeding, and serious damage.
She just pushed a whole human out of her body. And you can’t wait 6 weeks?
She’s yours. She’s not running away. Let her heal first.
Wait 6 weeks. Minimum. No negotiation.
Any culture that involves sexually harassing women or placing restriction on their life is repugnant to natural justice, equity and good conscience and should be abolished.
This is 2026, not the stone age FGS.
Men in a university in the North stoned Deborah to death.
Men in a university in the South are sexually assaulting women in public.
It’s not an education issue. There is something deeply horrific about the society we must address.
Misandry is women venting. Misogyny has institutions, laws, traditions and festivals behind it.
Misandry is like old women gossiping at the back of the church. Misogyny is what happened in Ozoro today.
One is a reaction while other is a system.
When they say “stop raping women”, olori-ebis will rear their heads to start asking “what of false accusers?”. Now there’s a whole ass festival dedicated to raping women, with videos circulating, you’re quiet because you’re still investigating the videos with forensics abi?
This is what people think Physiotherapy is but they’re wrong. Nothing from this video has any clinical basis or evidence backing. I pity anyone that allows these carpenters do this to their bodies.
Aren’t you scared of paralysis??? and to the PTs that still do these for money despite knowing fully well that they have no benefit whatsoever, you will be caught one day.
Physiotherapists 🥹🥹🥹
Nigerian Physiotherapists 🥹🥹🥹
The super heroes who take up watch when the rest of the team are done and don't step down till we add quality back to years.
She mocked my people as they died of starvation inflicted by Nigerian government in 1967.
She referred the successful businessmen of my people as people who made their money from selling one of their kidneys.
She fell ill within one year of mocking our dead. She suffered from the same kidney issue.
She Died within one year.
I am not celebrating her death but we must be mindful of what we say out of our mouths because the universe is impartial.