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im esthetic

[zomby @cyber_zomby]

#RickAndMorty

[tala ✪ @sbnsprng]

sorry for even asking

[Lily | frankpilled | on doomsday marathon @xoknixo]

i think about this moment a lot

[August Raven @AugustRaven]

What kills me is how he keeps looking forward for a bit like he's still in the HUD

It's like if you were fighting in VR and got ya shit ripped off ya head by the most brolic muscled up mf you ever seen in your life

[juan @JuanEditzs]

they spoiled the movie we know the avengers win now

[Dianne Ramirez @DianneR_99]

"A real Bucky fan would/wouldn't ship him with..." Whenever I read this I keep coming back to the same unease. The ship war that treats Bucky as something to be won — as if the point were to prove why this pairing is “better” than that one, and therefore who has the right to “custody” of him — is not a conversation about what would be good for him. It is a contest over ownership dressed up as care. Bucky doesn't deserve that. It's a disrespectful reduction: a man with a life, a history, and an inner world turned into the accessory of someone else.

A genuine fan, of Bucky or of anyone, meets the character as a character with intrinsic worth. Not as Steve’s unfinished business. Not as Sam’s eternal cheerleader. Not as prop used to lend legitimacy to the Thunderbolts or as Wakanda’s eternal loyalist who owes them some kind of blind loyalty—not because they did him a favor, but because they restored the human right to freedom, which should never have been violated in the first place. Not as a broken object waiting for the right partner to assemble him. And not as s*xual material for a fantasy that has very little to do with who he is.

Nel Noddings called this the difference between care and projection. Real care begins with attention to the other as they are, and with the willingness to let their needs — not our preferences — set the direction of concern. If we never ask what would actually promote Bucky’s wellbeing, we are not caring for him. We are using him.

And his needs are not obscure if we take both the story and the clinical literature seriously.

This is a man subjected to decades of captivity, forced killing, repeated memory wipes, and electroconvulsive assault. In The Wakanda Files, Shuri describes the damage as extensive: an EEG that showed how “murky” his brain had become; a limbic system she compared to “a Christmas tree on psychotropic drugs”; conditioning that made him hyperaware and highly suggestible, and that would take years to unravel. In the book Marvel Studios Visual Dictionary and other companion books such as The Art of CA:TWS, CA:CW, etc., it is explicitly stated that Hydra's mind control robbed him of his sense of agency and stripped him of control over his own body. That is complex PTSD layered on acquired brain injury. It is not a romance prompt.

Judith Herman’s model of trauma recovery is blunt about the order of things. Safety and stabilization come first. Remembrance and mourning come later. Reconnection with ordinary life comes later still — on the survivor’s timeline, not on anyone else’s. Safety cannot be skipped because love is convenient. Agency cannot be outsourced because a ship needs closure.

That first stage — the reconstruction of safety — is where so much of the fandom conversation quietly fails.

In the phase-oriented treatment of structural dissociation, Onno van der Hart, Kathy Steele, and Ellert Nijenhuis argue that early work is not about forcing integration or “fixing” the person. It is about stabilization: reducing overwhelm, building a tolerable relationship to inner experience, and meeting distress with verbal and nonverbal empathic attunement. That attunement is not decorative. It models, for the survivor, the possibility of internal empathy. Without it, the system remains organized around phobia — of feelings, of parts, of attachment itself.

Janina Fisher’s parts work in 'Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors' makes the same demand more intimately. Healing does not begin with erasing the part that holds the trauma. It begins with acceptance, compassion, curiosity, and attunement toward every part of the person — including the Emotional Parts that carry what the daily self cannot afford to feel. Read through that lens, the Winter Soldier is NOT a villain or an inherent corrupt aspect Bucky must disown in order to become lovable. The Winter Soldier is the manifestation of Bucky’s victimization: the part that survived what no one should have had to survive. To treat that part as an embarrassment, a stain, "rotten fur" or a problem for other characters to manage is not neutrality. It is a refusal to see the wound.

The research on social acknowledgment says this even more plainly. Andreas Maercker and Julia Müller (2004) showed that recognition of a person’s status as victim or survivor is not a courtesy. It is a recovery factor. When that acknowledgment is present, it can buffer the worsening of PTSD symptoms. When it is absent — when the social world withholds recognition, or answers suffering with disapproval or ignorance— the absence itself is associated with greater severity. Lack of recognition is not a blank space. It is an active social condition.

Larry Pruitt and Lori Zoellner’s analogue study (2007) presses the point further. After exposure to traumatic material, neutral social reactions — the ones that neither attack nor acknowledge — were associated with more frequent and more severe intrusive thoughts later on. Neutrality, in the aftermath of trauma, can function as invalidation. In some conditions it may even be more corrosive over time than openly negative responses, because it teaches the survivor that what happened, and what they feel, is not real enough to name.

This is why the fandom slogan that “not judging him is enough”/"Inviting him to a one-time party just makes him feel accepted" is so thin. The absence of prejudice is NOT the same thing as positive social support. You cannot accept what you have not first recognized. Carl Rogers argued that psychological safety arises from a stance that is empathic, genuine, congruent, and non-judgmental — one that receives the other as a person of unconditional worth. But that acceptance is not a vague vibe of “I don’t hate you.” It is the unconditional recognition and acceptance of what the other lived, what they feel, what they fear, and what still lives in them. Without that recognition, “acceptance” is only a nicer word for looking away. And looking away is invalidation.

Anyone being honest with the text can see that Bucky, across his arc, received virtually none of this. What he received, again and again, was either direct revictimization — blame, atonement framed as morality, the demand that he carry crimes committed through him as if they were chosen — or a silence that never named what was done to him as what it was. Invalidation, or non-recognition. Neither one is care.

What makes this especially bleak is not that casual viewers miss it. It's that Bucky has one of the largest fandoms in the MCU, and still almost no one seems willing to sit with the unglamorous question: what would actually be good for him? I can count on one hand the people I have seen take that question seriously. The rest of the conversation collapses into the headcanons that cost the least and gratify the most: that he can just “be fixed,” that proximity to the right person is treatment, that declining to condemn him is the same as helping him heal. Those stories are comforting because they ask nothing of us except to keep watching what we already wanted to see.

Bucky is not Steve’s. He is not Sam’s. He is not the Thunderbolts’. He is not Wakanda’s proof of benevolence. He is a character who has been through too much, which is precisely why so many people recognize themselves in him. That recognition should have produced more respect, not more entitlement.

He deserves to be seen as who he is, not as the degree to which he satisfies other people’s fantasies. He deserves safety. Compassion. Validation. Attunement. Unconditional acceptance of every single part of him. Unconditional freedom and autonomy over his own life. That is not a ship. That is the minimum of what concern would look like if it were real.

I think a real fan would fight for that — even when it is less satisfying than winning an argument.

[BFrog @BFrog__]

como se siente despertarse de una "siesta rápida" cubierto de sudor con el móvil en 1% sin saber si son las 8am o las 8pm

[bete 🍂 @tossedecachoro]

em TODO filme o loki fala "eu sou o deus da trapaça principe das mentiras" e em TODO FILME o thor confia no loki e quando o loki trai ele o thor fica SURPRESO

[| Gift | @Unknown365645]

@akashisizzz Zanka is this I hate him anyway I want him DEAD in the ground

[koopa @KoopaIsTired]

And after William killed the kids, the man behind the slaughter proceeded to put 80+ hours in hulk.

[Mel ☂︎ @jamesromanova_]

natasha: quem fica toda hora tendo as memórias apagadas mdskkk

bucky:

[𝕛𝕒𝕟𝕖𝕒 @heyyitsjanea]

been a whole year and i STILL can’t believe she was going on off on Okoye

[Sofie Angelie @stuckyabyssal]

just know that Steve was staring at theses picture for hours

[SHORBI 🇰🇿 @autismpill]

Some things are one time experiences that don't need a fandom and that's okay

[m 🕸 @stuckonbarnes]

he was with him til the end of the line

[Sydmish @Sydmish1]

Black widow warm up
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#marvel #avengers #avengersdoomsday

[HOT GIRL CAP ⍟ @SAMTH33STALLION]

Bucky character regression but yall ain’t ready for that conversation because hype aura yay

[jas ⋆ 𐙚₊˚ sambucky stan acc! @blackfrcst]

cap quartet parallels i am sick to my stomach are you joking...

[Kire - Re:Watch @KirePerona]

never gonna get tired of this emisuba moment