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level me with a dream

[Ben_jamin @UnlikeWinter]

Hey, if you've not read this, the second best time to seize the opportunity to do so is now 🙂.

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[Rage🌸✨️ @softangrygirl]

This sounds like what a rapist would say

[Ayo @Alhajirostova]

fuel is no longer subsidized. even federal universities, which are supposed to be affordable, are now expensive. we're paying a fortune for gas. housing is out of reach for many people. security is non-existent.

so what exactly is the government doing for us?

[Omo Kogi (Yagba) 🌍 @harrysone9]

Nigerians are always quick to move on, but if this pops up on your timeline, repost it; it costs you zero naira.

It’s been three weeks now.

[shy fawkes @butterbooter]

the pigeon doesn’t understand your disdain for it; it coos for you anyway. the tree does not know you own an axe for it; its leaves sway in the sun anyway. the starving cat eats the poison you put out. it doesn’t know how not to trust. the earth forgives you, in spite of yourself

[Mark @Marknit0]

You ppl should keep lying to yourself that religious leaders do not control their members.

A whole generation of Deeperlifers didn't watch TV for years because their G.O said so.

Witnesses are dying every other day because their doctrine do not allow blood transfusion. LOL

[Duke of Africa @Allezamani]

Repost without saying anything.

[❗️ @Drealad0nis]

Three weeks ago, my 23-year-old neighbor was kidnapped on her way to Kontagora in Niger State.
While in captivity, the bandits repeatedly raped her taking turns sleeping with her night after night. Still, they kept bargaining with her father over the phone, demanding ransom even as they violated her.

Her father fought with everything he had. He hustled day and night, borrowed from everyone, took loans, sold whatever he could determined to bring his daughter home.
When he finally gathered the full amount, he called the bandits and begged them, ‘Please, give the phone to my daughter. Let me speak to her. I want her to know I’m coming for her.’
They gave her the phone.
In a broken, traumatized voice, she told her father: ‘Dad, do not suffer yourself looking for the money. They have been sleeping with me. I’m traumatized. I can’t forgive myself. Even if I’m released, I’ll kill myself. Don’t bother paying the ransom.’
Those were the last words she ever spoke to him.
While her father was still holding the phone, he heard the gunshot. He heard his daughter being killed. Moments later, the bandits sent pictures of her remains to him, a final act of cruelty.
A 23-year-old girl. My neighbor. Someone’s daughter, someone’s sister, someone’s friend gone in the most horrific way possible.
This is not just one story. This is the nightmare too many families are living in Niger State and across Nigeria. Young women snatched on the roads, violated, used as bargaining chips, and discarded like nothing.
Living in Nigeria has become truly scary. You wake up, you step out, and you don’t know if you or your loved ones will return home. The fear is constant. The pain is constant. And too often, justice never comes.

Rest in peace to my neighbor.

[Adedayo Agarau @adedayoagarau]

Underreported!

[Anish Moonka @anishmoonka]

Scientists shut off the dopamine in some rats and they stopped eating. Food everywhere. They starved in a full cage, not because they hated it. Put sugar on their tongue and they licked their lips. They still liked it. They just lost the drive to go get it.

This is one of the strangest things we know about the brain, and it traces back to a researcher named Kent Berridge at the University of Michigan. Your head runs two different systems. One is wanting, the push that gets you off the couch and moving. The other is liking, the good feeling once you are in it. Dopamine runs the wanting. The enjoyment runs on separate wiring. So you can be sure you will love something and still feel almost no pull to start it.

That is the man in the cartoon, swinging at rock with diamonds all around him. He could see the good stuff. He just could not make himself dig toward it.

Once you see why, the usual story about procrastination stops making sense. We say lazy, or bad with time. Mostly, it is neither. Two psychologists, Fuschia Sirois and Tim Pychyl, argued back in 2013 that it runs on emotion. A task makes you feel something you would rather not feel, even just the small dread of starting, and putting it off makes that feeling vanish on the spot. So you scroll, or you suddenly need to clean the kitchen. Dodging the task is a quick hit of relief, and your brain grabs it. The bill goes straight to future-you, who is left holding the guilt and the deadline.

You can even see it on a brain scan. In 2018, a team in Germany scanned 264 people and matched the scans against how much each person put things off. The big procrastinators had a larger amygdala, the little alarm bell deep in the brain that flags anything risky. They also had a weaker link to the part meant to quiet that alarm and get you moving, a region called the dorsal anterior cingulate cortex. Loud alarm, weak off-switch.

And if this is you, you have plenty of company. A big 2007 review found that 80 to 95 percent of college students procrastinate, that roughly one in five adults does it long-term, and that more than 95 percent of them wish they could quit. Students alone burn about a third of their day on it.

The fix falls out of that same split. If wanting and liking are two different systems, then waiting to "feel like it" is waiting for a bus that may never come. The main treatment for the severe version, called behavioral activation, flips the order. You start first, as small as you can stand, before any motivation shows up. The wanting tends to arrive a few minutes after you begin. The diamonds were there the whole time. You just have to swing the pick before you feel ready.

[Javu, The first @cocojavu]

Nigeria will test you. Boy! Nigeria will test you!

I kid disappeared when he was 14, his folks searched everywhere for him with no success.

He was later discovered in prison and he was already 32. He couldn't even remember why he was arrested or how long his sentence is.

The prison doesn't have a record of his crime or sentence (that's what's making me bald with madness)

They've now secured his release though. But I'm just so mad at our condition in this country 🤬🤬🤬

[VitalRenaissance @VitalRenaiss]

@CraftOfMastery Animals are pure expressions of god, a lot can be learned from their behaviour

[predo @P3droHB_]

Once, my psychologist told me "People can understand your pain, your traumas, and where they come from, and still find your actions unacceptable. Your trauma doesn't justify your mistake, it only explains it."

[Simon Thazhigilla Simon🇳🇬 @Thazhigilla_]

Do you know that for over 1,300 years, Doctors treated people based on the anatomy of monkeys and pigs, believing the lower jaw had two bones, your liver had five separate lobes, and your blood was constantly consumed by your flesh instead of being circulated.

This continued until when a 28-year-old Belgian rebel named Andreas Vesalius dropped a book called De Humani Corporis Fabrica and and told every Doctor since Galen: you have never once seen a human being. Vesalius was condemned to death by the Inquisition for dissecting a nobleman whose heart was still beating.

483 years later, a 22-year-old Nigerian named Thazhigilla will continue what he started by rendering the same anatomy in Black skin, and drawing the pathologies that medicine has spent centuries pretending don't look different on us.

[⋆⁺₊⋆ jessica ☾ ⋆⁺₊⋆ 🍉 @ItsMrsRabbitToU]

Well now. Isn’t this interesting. So much for the patriarchy.

[khaleesi🧍🏽‍♀️ @shelovesore]

Lmao I have 2.
Mother Teresa and Mahatma Gandhi.

Mother Teresa let dying patients be treated with blunt reused needles, had a mortality rate about 40% in her clinics and when she was confronted about the conditions, said there’s something beautiful in seeing the poor accept their lot, and to suffer it like Christ’s Passion. Doctors called her facilities “homes for the dying”. And cancer patients were given aspirin for pain.

Gandhi too, the face of universal peace, the person that said “be the change you wish to see”, spent years in South Africa describing Black Africans as “savage”, “dirty” and living like animals. He campaigned actively to prove to British rulers that Indians were superior to native Black Africans. He also organized a brigade to help suppress a Zulu uprising. His defenders say he evolved. Maybe.

Nobody likes to talk about the entire sides of history.

And these are their summarized versions btw.

[Tomilola Oluwafemi | Software Engineer @tomilola_ng]

I was going to build two websites for a multimillionaire. I am sure his business was making around 50 million a month.

I sent an invoice of 1.8 million, but his assistant reduced it to 800k, saying Oga wouldn’t pay.

When the invoice reached him, he called me personally and asked me to lower it to 600k, saying it was too high. I stood my ground, and we agreed on 400k for just one of the sites.

On the day we launched the site, I joined their team celebration dinner. It lasted less than two hours, and the restaurant bill was 420k.

He literally paid for a one-night dinner that cost more than what he paid me for three weeks of work

When we wanted to buy a domain, the one he liked was $80, he paid for two years upfront, that's over 200k

I realized he wasn’t concerned about the money; His goal was to keep me small.

[scott 🌞 @scottdomes]

making a new grand plan of how you’re going to “fix” your life is usually a relief-seeking behaviour; part of your mind is anxious about some core fear (e.g. “I’m wasting my life”) and so it triggers a behaviour loop that leads to the desired feeling (“ah I’ll be okay once I lock in”)

but the goal of that behaviour is the feeling itself, which is why those plans so often fail to materialize. a better path would be to get clear on what that core fear actually is and resolve it at its root, so that instead of relief-seeking you can focus on joyful creation

[HARRISON fell off ✨ @harrisonJNIOR]

The woman that spoke about that tomato company and its potential health risks, got arrested and is still fighting for her freedom

The customer that called out moniepoint for their charges, was arrested

that content creator that made a joke about bank services got hit with a lawsuit.

The girl that called out nysc was haunted down and targeted from all angles.

But this bastard constantly shows his support in the guise of sympathy for criminals not just any criminal terrorist not just any terrorist Islamic terrorist. Kidnappers and Fulani herdsmen that are kidnappers.

To him their lives are better than the people they’ve killed.

Yet he’s still free, he’s openly pushing support for people terrorizing our nation. Abducting children, killing our military men, and killing military generals.

Yet the government don’t see him as a threat.

[‏ً @itsnwts]

The same thing actually happens with fashion too. Sewing and liking fashion are seen as feminine activities, but 99% of the great designers are men. It's only "a girl's thing" if she's not financially rewarded for it.

[Abu The 𓃵 @Abu_The_Truth]

We must change the vernacular:

Colonial masters → Evil Wh!te Europeans

Colonization → Looting & Oppression

Slave Trade → Human Trafficking

Foreign Aid→ Bribery & Control Package

They rebranded their evil so well, you have to look three times to fully grasp what they did.