as an *actual* private person, i can over confirm that people become very odd when they can’t figure you out or what’s truly going on in your life beyond the surface
DO NOT MAKE LIFE DECISIONS BASED ON YOUR BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND. Do not stay close to home for them, do not skip opportunities for them, do not pick a university that's close for them. They not the world! Grow yourself, expand your horizons.
Someone told me yesterday that when they feel nervous about doing something & their heart starts beating really fast, that they call it their "Inner Applause" because their body is cheering them on, and I think that's the cutest narrative adjustment ever 🥹
Even in friendships mind your business. If they don’t tell you, they probably don’t want you to know, or just not yet. You are not entitled to knowing what’s going on at every point in your friend’s life.
Girlhood is going shopping and then being excited to go home and look at what you just got even though you literally just saw it at the store when you got it