Varuni Fernando

Therapy builds meaningful connections with self and others.

[Varuni Fernando @VaruFernando]

The thing is the analogy doesn’t fit.

[Ren Clips @ClipperRen]

werner herzog on why he will never go to therapy

"i'd rather die than go to an analyst"

"if you harshly light every last corner of a house the house will be uninhabitable it's like that with your soul"

he just dropped the coldest take on therapy ive ever heard and somehow made it sound completely normal

[Varuni Fernando @VaruFernando]

@Ritesh_7l Social media is fertile ground for idiotic musings. Living life to the fullest, follow your passion, etc., have confused many and have been the cause of dissatisfaction with life for many more.

[Varuni Fernando @VaruFernando]

Living and studying in Sri Lanka, we think that we are so disadvantaged. But the fact is that no amount of training and credentials will ever fix the problem of disinterest in mastery. Credentials alone will never set anyone on a path to mastery of their craft.
When a study group for psychodynamic psychotherapy was promoted on social media there were responses to dm’s to the effect ‘I have covered psychodynamic therapy in my masters, so I don’t need a study group.’ Mastery comes with lifelong learning. Those who learn for the credentials will eventually show up in the public eye under a negative light.

[David Puder M.D. @DavidPuder]

“What is akathisia”

“A K A S T H E S I A”

“Ya I guess I would have to look that up”

[Joseph Fasano @Joseph_Fasano_]

Don't buy it.

[Varuni Fernando @VaruFernando]

@Ritesh_7l Early family environment influences us in many ways, even when there was no abuse or trauma.

[Varuni Fernando @VaruFernando]

Yes! The key word is ‘experience’. Not abuse. Not trauma. ‘Experience’ can mean the relationship vibe between your parents, a parent’s work ethic, their ways of conflict resolution, how they socialized with their peers, etc. Although not necessarily negative, these have impact on how you show up in your adult relationships.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Your childhood experiences are never your fault, but your adult responsibility is to heal from them so you don't damage every person who tries to love you.

[Arthur Schopenhauer @SchopenhauerNow]

Schopenhauer wrote this paragraph more than 150 years ago, and it’s still true

[Varuni Fernando @VaruFernando]

@MinuRanasinghe I hope that’s the case.

[Varuni Fernando @VaruFernando]

Banning an occupation until the age of 40 is not going to solve the problems of youth unemployment, lack of paid apprenticeships, poor career guidance, etc.

More importantly, do we want the state to dictate adult work choices? Scary precedent.

Closing doors to a legitimate livelihood for youth without offering them ‘better’ work opportunities is like noticing people are filling up their tummies with loads of rice because a balanced, protein-rich meal is totally unaffordable..and then deciding to fix that problem by banning rice.

[NewsWire 🇱🇰 @NewsWireLK]

Govt plans minimum age of 40 for three-wheeler drivers: Deputy Minister https://t.co/Y4eUqHp828

[Varuni Fernando @VaruFernando]

It’s not about telepathy. It means interpersonal influence takes place outside of reflective awareness (automatically). This is well supported by modern evidence.
In a human to human psychotherapy relationship, such implicit communication happens all the time. The therapist notices and works with it. This is one of the main reasons why ai cannot deliver psychotherapy. But ai can be extremely useful for learning certain skills.

[Dr. Linda Berman @LindaBerman4]

The unconscious of one human being can react upon that of another without passing through the conscious.
Sigmund Freud

[Varuni Fernando @VaruFernando]

‘Nudge’ by Thaler and Sunstein offers useful insights into choice architecture.

In the issue of banning tuk license for youth, decision makers can think of genuine ‘nudges’ to change choice without forbidding an option.

For policy makers, a question to ask themselves in order to come up with a more positive and creative solution is ‘how do we make better options easier to find, easier to start and easier to stick with, without taking away the current option?’ Of course, there needs to be some form of critical & creative thinking..

[Varuni Fernando @VaruFernando]

@charliekaru @BarbusLocus Some alternatives (in principle) are mentioned in the op. It would be impossible for me personally to have a better plan. This is where we need strong public policy and economic expertise than ordinary citizens such as myself.

[Varuni Fernando @VaruFernando]

@BarbusLocus It’s not only convenient, it’s also a dead end job for young people. Not to mention the health risk and a plethora of other career and social disadvantages. My point is different-banning a livelihood is not the way.

[Varuni Fernando @VaruFernando]

@ashanddb @NewsWireLK Agree. I would also add that a govt shouldn’t dictate occupations for adult citizens. A smarter move would be to lure the youth into more productive and meaningful jobs without appearing authoritarian by banning.

[Varuni Fernando @VaruFernando]

Wholesome.

[AuthentiKate ☂️🪔🍒 @kateiswell]

I’m so, SO, SO tired of the narrative that having children is the worst thing that ever happened to women.

Let’s flood this thread with something different.

Post a photo or short video of a mom genuinely enjoying her children. A baby being adored. A toddler making her laugh. A mom soaking up an ordinary, beautiful moment with her kids.

Let’s show what loving motherhood looks like. ❤️

(I love that dad’s in the reflection on the fridge, too.)

[Varuni Fernando @VaruFernando]

@advocatalk Curious as to how this may not have had an impact on the exchange rate. A billion dollars exchanged for rupees..

[Varuni Fernando @VaruFernando]

For parents with young children. Backed by decades of research..

[Varuni Fernando @VaruFernando]

It’s a good day so far.

[Jonathan Haidt @JonHaidt]

Also relevant for understanding Meta's financial jeopardy: Meta lost its insurance.

In March, a Delaware judge ruled that Meta's insurance companies do not have a duty to defend Meta or cover its costs in the thousands of lawsuits playing out in California because, under California law, if a company caused harm through "intentional acts" rather than accidentally, the insurers have no obligation to defend that company.

Because the documents brought out in the NM and LA trials show intentional actions, Meta loses insurance coverage. That's what the insurance companies asserted, and the judge agreed with them.

See the story here:
https://t.co/imEjGqy3TM