never ask a man for anything.
never ask a man for time.
never ask a man for attention.
never ask a man to plan a date.
just sit back quietly & watch what he does.
because what a man does without being asked is who he really is.
One of the best things my therapist told me was "the reason you dissociate in your towel after you shower, sit in your car after you park, and mindlessly scroll on your phone all night after work is because you're living in a "functional freeze state." Where you can still get things done, but it takes every ounce of your energy to do it. This is why you're constantly exhausted, space out often, and why you can be so social at work but then ignore every text once you get home." If you can relate maybe this account is for you.
my therapist told me this and it hit me: “healing is so hard because it is a constant battle between your inner child who is scared and just wants safety.... your inner teenager who is angry and just wants justice.... and your current self-who is tired and just wants peace."
saw this on ig and tiktok and i couldn't scroll past. her words are so poetic especially when she said "because even though i don't want to, for the rest of my life, i will remember my ex hated oranges." to be truly loved is to be truly known. this is such a beautiful read, i hope it finds its way to your timeline. 🥹❤️
They weren't lying when they said you wake up one day and just don't care anymore. No warning, no dramatic shift, just a quiet, almost peaceful detachment.
girl to girl.... put you first. hit the gym consistently. keep your nails done. eat GOOD food. do the hobbies you enjoy. take your vitamins. 9-10 hours of sleep. buy that new workout set. delete distractions. water your grass so much that you don't give a shit about anyone
@hell_line0 This is the real standard.
You don’t need someone flawless you need someone emotionally mature.
Someone who can stay present during the hard convos, take accountability without ego, and love without making pain a weapon.
That’s where safe love begins.
You don’t need a perfect partner. You need someone who can regulate their emotions, admit when they fuck up, & actually sit with uncomfortable conversations without shutting down, flipping it on you, or throwing low blows every time shit gets real.
CHEATING ISN'T THE ONLY WAY TO LOSE SOMEBODY. IT'S LACK OF COMMUNICATION, LACK OF CONSISTENCY, ATTENTION, DISRESPECT, ALWAYS HAVIN TO BE REMINDED OF WHAT NOT TO DO, REPEATING SHIT THAT I DON'T WANT BEING DONE, THE FUCKED UP SHIT BEING SAID DURING ARGUMENTS. IT ALL PLAYS A ROLE.
i saw a TikTok earlier this week, where this girl was manifesting by using the phrase "show me how good it can get".... and I haven't stopped saying it since. i'm open, God. show me how good it can get.