WaiitheraK

Power and Politics

[APAJI @apaji_x]

DO PEOPLE WITH ADHD REALLY FALL IN LOVE DIFFERENTLY?

Yes. And the reason is one of the most fascinating and most painful things about how the ADHD brain experiences another person.

[WaiitheraK @WaiitheraK]

@slyrie I think this is misplaced hate.

[WaiitheraK @WaiitheraK]

@spicedliver But isn't that the meaning of a brand & ownership? All brands are from China.

[MumZee✨🇳🇬 @_DebbieOA]

Ohhh, so this is how it's done.

[Elora khatun @elora_khatun]

If I got laid off tomorrow & had to replace my salary asap, here’s exactly what I’d do:

1. Go to Instagram and start a fresh account. Use a spare email. No one has to know.

[vaishali🪬 @vaishalivt_]

how to sit in the darkness during times of reinvention:

- stop demanding clarity from a version of you that’s still being formed
let yourself grieve the identities, people + patterns you’re outgrowing
- resist filling every empty space just because uncertainty feels uncomfortable
- regulate your nervous system before making decisions from fear or urgency
spend time alone without turning -isolation into self-abandonment
notice what keeps resurfacing when the noise disappears
- trust that confusion can be part of becoming more honest with yourself
build tiny rituals that remind your body you’re safe while your life rearranges
- let the old version of you die without immediately deciding who replaces her
remember that you don’t need to see the entire path to keep walking toward yourself

[​𝐥𝐲𝐫𝐚 @sunnkssdseraph]

The person who talks less always gives off a greater aura of power than the people that are yabbering all the time. They can't control their tongue. And the idea is if you can't control your mouth, if you just keep talking and talking, it gives an aura to other people that you have no self control. And obviously, the more you talk, the more you are prone to say something kind of stupid and irrational that you're going to regret. So powerful people know to command an audience. They sit there, they let other people talk and argue. And then occasionally they utter something that's maybe a little bit ambiguous or different hat's very interesting. You look powerful. You give off an air of mystery, give off an air of control. A lot of people have a hard time with it because they think, oh, should I just be able to say whatever I want and just talk well. No, you don't, not in the social world, not in the work world, it's going to get you in trouble, learn to control what you talk and learn that there are moments that saying less is actually much more powerful than just yammering on and on.

[Karun Pal @karunpal]

Intelligent people live a boring life. They go to bed at 10. Wake up at 6. Eat simple foods. Go for long walks. Read thick books. Say no to things that drain them. The world chases excitement. But they chase calm. Things that align with their soul. A calm routine. A quiet mind. A healthy body. Meaningful work. A small circle. A private life. Their life may look boring from the outside. But from the inside, they experience a kind of freedom most people spend their entire lives searching for.

[figment of your imagination @ninimazara]

You will be the most hated if you don’t participate in social hierarchies and refuse to kiss ass

[𝐋𝐞𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐝 @be_like_legend1]

5 SIGNS YOUR TERRIFYING TEMPER IS ACTUALLY UNDIAGNOSED ADHD — and the dead giveaway isn’t the anger itself:

[Sora @sora_sohrah]

Let me tell you all something about intelligent women and their experiences in relationships with men. You can argue with me later.
For now walk with me.....

[​𝐥𝐲𝐫𝐚 @sunnkssdseraph]

Your excuses can be completely legitimate and still be the reason that you never made it. You know, the bank doesn't accept trauma as a payment method. Your childhood might have been terrible, you might have grown up without a father. You may have been betrayed by everybody that you trusted. All of that is real. All of it's valid, your pain and your potential, they both live in the same body. Every single day you wake up choosing which one gets to drive. You can hold onto the excuse forever. You can tell the story to anybody that will listen and every single person would nod and say,I understand, but understanding doesn't change your bank account. Sympathy, doesn't build your future. Validation doesn't pay your bills. The most dangerous excuse isn't the weak one, it's the valid one because when your excuse is legitimate, you can justify staying stuck forever. Nobody will ever challenge you. Nobody will ever push back. They'll just let you stay there, comfortable in your pain, validate you and your failure. And meanwhile, somebody out there has the same story as you, same broken home, same setbacks, same trauma, and they decided their past was a reason to go harder, not a reason to stop. Same circumstances, different decision, that's the only difference between the man who made it, and someone who almost did. I'm not saying to forget what happened to you. I'm saying, stop letting it alter the rest of your life. You can acknowledge the wound and still refuse to let it write your entire future. Those are two very different things. So understand your reasons are real, your results, they don't care. And at some point you gotta decide, do you want the excuse or do you want the life.

[𝓐⭑ @ayogiovanna]

Neurodivergent people often seem most regulated when they’re allowed to live authentically.

When they stop apologizing for not being people-pleasers, stop forcing themselves into environments that drain them, and stop accepting less than they deserve.

Sometimes finding alignment starts with finally letting yourself be yourself.

[Chinwendu Nwangwa @msnwangwa]

Influencer culture is why people who haven’t done the work, who don’t have the experience, who haven’t contributed any meaningful ideas to pertinent discourse in specific fields are being invited to be guest speakers at events in such fields.

We’ve forsaken competence for virality, and this is how the decline in actual knowledge and value added continues.

[blue @bluewmist]

You need boredom. A lot of it. Start by going on walks without music. No stimulation. No distractions of any kind. If you learn to sit with your own thoughts, for long enough, in time they will start serving you. You'll start having ideas once again. You'll start developing an extreme sense of clarity that will shift you into the next stage of your life. All by being bored, which is pretty insane.

[​𝐥𝐲𝐫𝐚 @sunnkssdseraph]

So friedrich nietzsche has a quote, and it's arguably one of the most brilliant things I've ever heard. And I think you need to hear it. It goes like this, "most people do not think, they repeat, they adopt the opinions of those around them, wear them like borrowed clothes and call it a worldview. And when you dare to think for yourself, really think, they will not admire you for it, they will resent you because your refusal to conform is a mirror they did not ask to look into. The unexamined man does not hate you because you are wrong. He hates you because somewhere beneath the noise he suspects you might be right."

[Lessons @onlypreneurs]

Becoming better starts the day you stop defending your unconscious habits. The subtle self-sabotage. The patterns you keep repeating.
Staying in situations that keep wounding you. As long as you keep casting yourself as the innocent one in your own story, nothing changes.

[Lima @limalemonnn]

this is insane. i genuinely don't understand why ambitious people aren't shown this lecture before their careers start consuming their entire lives.

clayton christensen spent his career studying why successful companies collapse. in his final class, he asked students to apply the theory to themselves: if you keep allocating your time the same way, what life are you actually building?

he had already seen the answer in his own harvard mba class. everyone looked successful at the fifth reunion; by the 10th, 15th, 20th, and 25th, many were unhappy, divorced, and living far from their children.

work shows you the score immediately. close a sale, ship a product, finish a presentation, earn a promotion, get paid.

an hour with your child may produce nothing you can measure today; it may take 20 years to understand what that hour built. so the next free hour goes back to work, one rational decision at a time.

this is how people build lives they never planned: through hundreds of right decisions that lead in the wrong direction, day after day.

money, titles, and headcount are easy to count. christensen believed a life should be measured by the people who became better because you were there.

he died in 2020.

one question remains: if someone saw only where your time, energy, and attention went this year, what would they think actually mattered to you?

the full 19-minute lecture is in the video below.

[​𝐥𝐲𝐫𝐚 @sunnkssdseraph]

I finally understand what Machiavelli meant when he said, "Never play fair in a game where others cheat." It doesn't mean become evil. It means stop being naive. Stop bringing honesty to people who study manipulation, stop giving access to people who weaponize closeness, and stop expecting clean hands from people who already showed you they'll throw dirt. Sometimes wisdom is not revenge. Sometimes wisdom is learning the rules of the room before the room uses your goodness against you.

[Libriscent @libriscent]

NO ONE TALKS ABOUT THE FUCKING ANGER THAT HITS WHEN YOU realize how much of your life was spent carrying everyone else's emotions while nobody ever cared about yours.