On Monthly Allowance.
I'm not even against it. You would know if you've seen my tweet from the past. It is how you people frame it and talk about it, that is disgusting. There is no aspect of love that is gendered because love is not a masculine responsibility, it is a lover's duty. Whether you're a man or woman is frankly, irrelevant.
If your partner loses their job and you're earning N200k. You could decide to give them N50k monthly till they get back on their feet. You have other responsibilities but they have become primary.
If you earn a lot more than your partner. N4m to N250k. You could decide to put them on N250k or whatever, monthly, to supplement their income due to the extant economic reality. Once you see your money as "our money" love is easy. You want to see your partner happy and in a good place.
Understand that while doing either of these, you're still both invested in each other and building a home together in love and togetherness. The problem with the "monthly allowance discourse on the TL" is that it revolves around vagina entitlement. You think you deserve it just because you're a woman or because you think you 'give him sex.' Some of you are in same tax bracket as your man or even earn higher and still feel entitled to monthly allowance. Are you an armed robber?
You cannot claim to love anyone and put them in dis-ease. How are you comfortable collecting monthly allowance from someone that earns same as you while carrying more responsibilities than you? You don't love them. The first principle of love is kindness. You must put your partner's best interest upfront.
Having said this, I totally understand people who are against it because it could lead to entitlement. Look at you people that haven't even started collecting it, and you feel very entitled to it. Interestingly, same you that claim you deserve it, have sworn you cannot do it for your man. Are you not a witch? It is gross hypocrisy to demand love you cannot give. Love is for lovers. You only deserve the love you give.
Many of you don't deserve shit. You tweet shit for clout and validation, and to esteem yourself highly in the eyes of potential mates. But when vagina is your only premise for deserving an allowance, you make it obvious to the gallery that you're nothing more than a hors d'oeuvre to the vagina hunters.
I say she dey shock 😭 Jesus my Belle.
I like am gan.
You can see how she's processing it in real-time. She no believe am.
She dey rattle Nigerian aunties gan. 😭
I grew up and realized the world at large is strictly agenda-based(from religion, to politics, to gender, to the media(news), to tradition, culture, to education)…
So I started off by taking time out to mentally analyze every proverb/adage/folklore/popular sayings that i’ve heard of in my lifetimes(including the things that have been perceived and indoctrinated as norms/sacred over the years)
I swear with everything I stand for, each and every one of them has an agenda..
And you have to mentally check out of these matrixes to remain wholesome whilst still remembering where you’re from as an African(or as a Man at least).