Your entire life can really change in a year. You just gotta love yourself enough to know you deserve more, be brave enough to demand more, and be disciplined enough to actually work for more. You can do it. You got this.
Ever met someone like this?
They are pretending to help you, while also actively sabotaging your progress.
Apply high discernment to every helping hand.
Be aware of people addicted to stress and chaos. Without adrenaline flooding their body, they don't feel like themselves.
They don't want advice or solutions.
They want a captive audience that doesn't force them to self reflect.
Schools really need to remember that PARENTS are still the ultimate authority over their own children.
If I decide my child is staying home, going on a trip, taking a mental break, or simply needs time away from school… then that IS an excused absence because I excused it. I don’t need validation from a doctor, attendance officer, superintendent, or anybody else to parent MY child.
And let’s be real… some of y’all are way too comfortable acting like kids belong more to the school system than to their own families.
My child is not a robot programmed to wake up every morning and perform on command because the state says so. Childhood is short, and I’m not handing over all of my child’s most important years to a system that thinks perfect attendance matters more than real life, family time, mental health, or experiences outside a classroom.
If I want my child home for a week, send the work. If that’s a problem, I’ll homeschool and teach them myself. Reading, writing, math — none of that is impossible without a school building.
And before people start with “they need structure” — structure starts at HOME, not in a classroom.
Don’t send me threatening attendance letters like you have more authority over my child than I do. The school does NOT dictate my child’s life or schedule.
My kids are on MY schedule. Not yours.
All parents traumatize their children. People hurt people. We traumatize each other, sometimes unintentionally. The work isn't to be perfect, it's to apologize, to be humble, and to keep trying to do better.
That's how you create a healthy family.
I heard a therapist say, “Your feelings are always valid, your behavior is not.” She explained by saying feel what you feel BUT you need to be accountable for what you do as a result of those feelings.
A mentor once told me: “When you don’t know what to do next, clean your desk, make a list, and start with the smallest thing that matters." Every major project begins with a single act. Big tasks paralyze you because your brain sees the mountain, not the path. Build stairs.