I'm begging you to please start taking your life more seriously. You don't have much time on this earth. Stop wasting it by doomscrolling, partying, and numbing your mind with cheap dopamine. Lock in. Fix your finances. Improve your relationships. Get in shape because looking good matters. Surround yourself with people who push you to be better. You'd be surprised by just how great your life will be if you just took yourself more seriously.
I can never forget the day 9ja women said if they had a 3 bedroom apartment and their man was renting a self-contain, they could not accommodate him in their house because they would disrespect him. Even the clowns who had tried packaging themselves as women with family values were fighting for their right to not house their own man, calling it a woman's nature to disrespect him if she houses him. Danaged souls.
Then damaged 9ja men were as usual fitting for their right to reject 3 bedroom to raise family in self-contain becsuse "as a man..."
"Woman's nature" una. No be woman accomodate her man in her parents home while sharing her bedroom with him for 2 years without any disrespect? She paid the bills and took care of him in love for 2 years. Una go carry witchcraft for body dey call am woman's nature. Just admit you're a witch. Again, womanhood is not a Nigerian word. We see women everywhere in the world.
As for 9ja men, I dont have pity for you. You no just wan get sense.
Have you listened to this song yet?
“Now the Lord is that Spirit: and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty. But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.”
2 Corinthians 3:17-18 KJV
#Kaestrings
I talk like this because I find it disgusting what you people call love in this country. Contrary to what you opine about me, I'm a firm advocate of love and relationship. What I cannot stand is unrequited love.
You see people always saying "Dickson is always showing up for his people." It is simply who I am because love is presence. It is kindness. If you want friends, you must first make yourself friendly. If I can show up for my friends, the friends I made on X and give money to you that I don't know, what do you think happens with a woman I choose to date and do life with? Any money I can't enjoy with my partner, I don't want it. It doesn't matter if my friend is getting married or burying a parent in Zamafara or Abakaliki, you'll see me there. How much distance do you think I would go for my own partner? I would wrest the moon from the sky if she wants.
You cannot love without giving. The principle is the same in every sphere of human relationship. When you have friends, you give, when you have family, you give. When you have neighbours, you give. When you have a partner, you give. Your partner is your primary responsibility because you're doing life with this person.
Notice how I always use partner and not man or woman. Love is not a gendered responsibility. Giving is not a gendered responsibility. You can't go into any relationship looking for what to take and feeling entitled to taking. You only deserve the love that you give. As a man or woman, give to your partner and keep giving. If you don't derive joy from giving to your partner habitually, you do not love them. The only way to approach a relationship is to ask yourself "how to I make this person's life better and what do I buy next to put a smile on their face?"
This message is primarily for woman because men are the givers in Nigeria. You cannot be in a relationship and be fundamentally useless. Don't give me that crap about how giving doesn't have to be monetary to excuse your selfishness. You work and you earn, you must be willing to spend on your partner regularly. Buy things for them because they need it, because you love it for them, because you love them, to celebrate them, to appreciate them, to mark a birthday, to celebrate lovers day, buy gifts for them just because.... that is love. Love is not word of mouth, it is sacrifice. That is why as a lover, you must never date your enemy because only your enemy would comfortably refuse to gift you HABITUALLY or have a problem with sharing bills.
Being a lover is not about posting flowers on Instagram or liking posts of men buying gifts for women, or having romantic expectations from men. Being a lover is about how far you are willing to go for your partner. The ONLY proof of love is GIVING. Do better!
For example, SEX . All God asks is that we do it the right way. Get married and enjoy all the sex you want. Matter of fact, the Bible says couples should never deprive each other of sex. Except by mutual consent, and for a very short time.
But no, we don’t want to do it the right way, then we push the narrative that God is Just this wicked being who hates our pleasure, and doesn’t want us to enjoy life. He gave us those desires for a reason. Just do it the right way..
God knows our situation, He will not judge us as if we had no difficulties to overcome. What matters is the sincerity and perseverance of our will to overcome them.
@UthmanBio I know, but with the state of the banking sector, it is not safe. The possibility of losing your hard-earned money in a split second without a trace is really high
Your carnality will rob you of God's blessings.
Being spiritually fervent positions you for all of God's blessings.
The simple way satan steals from you is to get you lukewarm and carnal.
Stay hot to stay Full!