Co-workers are not your friends.
- No drinks after work
- No weekend picnics
- No lunch with the team
They will never be your friends.
NEVERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!
The love you receive from someone who knows how to be alone is the most sincere there is.
A solitary soul loves you by choice, not out of a need for company.
I eat food without taking pictures. I wear nice outfits that never hit social media. I have moments so real, I forget to record. I laugh 10x harder in person than any "LMAO" could ever show." Just because it's not posted, doesn't mean it's not happening. I don't need an audience to enjoy my life.
Did you know? Allah mentions movement during sleep in Surah Al-Kahf?
Allah says about the People of the Cave:
“And We turned them to the right and to the left…”
(Qur’an 18:18)
Why would Allah mention this detail?
Introverts live a very private life. Away. Alone. Observing. Thinking. Learning. They’re never bored alone. But people bore them. Drain them. The small talk, the drama, the masks. It's just too much noise. Too many expectations. Too much blabber with no meaning. That’s why they step away. To breathe. To feel. To reset. To reconnect with themselves. All alone.
My Dearest Sister,
May Allah grant you a man who listens to everything you say, even the small things, even the stories you think are silly,
even the worries you’re afraid to voice.
A man who pays attention,
not because your words are perfect, but because you matter to him.
Because your comfort matters,
your heart matters,
and your presence is a blessing to him.
May Allah grant you a man who leans in when you speak,
who remembers what you said weeks ago,
who notices when your voice cracks,
who sees your silence and understands it
before you even explain.
May Allah grant you a man whose gentleness is not weakness but mercy, whose patience is not forced, but natural, whose love is not loud but consistent the kind rooted in taqwa.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“The best of you are those who are best to their women.”
(Tirmidhi)
So may Allah write for you a man who lives this hadith,
a man who honours you, protects you, respects you,
and treats you as an amanah entrusted to him by Allah.
And until that man comes,
may Allah fill your heart with peace, contentment, and the certainty that what He withholds is never a loss, only a protection. And what He gives is always better than what you prayed for.
I need to work on being a better friend. I’m just naturally distant and can unintentionally go long periods of time without talking to anybody. I’m trying to break this habit, but it's hard when you're a real-life hermit.