Stop dating neurodivergent women if you refuse to understand how deeply inconsistency affects them. Mixed signals, emotional unpredictability, and changing expectations aren’t harmless they can be genuinely distressing. Empathy isn’t optional in a healthy relationship.
Your kids regulate through your nervous system until around age 7. They reflect your internal calm or your chaos.
This is why your toddler melts down more when you're stressed and stays more balanced when you're grounded. Working on yourself helps them more than working on them.
This is one of my favorite books. It explores why so many African American men end up in difficult circumstances and how many of those challenges begin with deliberate disadvantages placed on them while they're still boys. More importantly, it offers practical ways to recognize those patterns and counter them.
they woke up at 7am like I thought, we had oatmeal and bananas for breakfast, quick playtime and baths now they’re back to sleep for at least the next hour and a half. I’m a go back to sleep too.
There’s a certain type of privacy & alone time I require in order for me to feel like I’m still functioning and operating as an individual. I cannot do the codependency or enmeshment.
Some people spent so much of their lives trying to survive that they never got the chance to learn how to swim, speak a foreign language, play an instrument, travel, or simply explore life beyond work and responsibilities. That’s a side of poverty we rarely talk about.