For some, avoidance is about control. It’s easier to distance themselves and flip the narrative. They might frame you as the problem, exaggerate your flaws, or invent reasons to be angry at you so they don’t have to sit with the weight of their own mistakes. By making it about your “wrongs,” they regain power. They reframe themselves as the victim, and you as the one at fault. Which is projection. By disowning their guilt and putting it onto you, they get to dodge the discomfort of self awareness.
Sometimes when you’re being avoided by people it’s because they feel shame and guilt over how they treated you. They know, deep down, that you didn’t deserve it and that they owe you more than silence, but avoidance becomes their coping mechanism. It’s emotionally unintelligent, but very common in people who are avoidant or who lack emotional regulation.
I think my biggest takeaway from this year is that God listens. He pays attention. He may not give you an answer in 6 hours or 6 months, but when he does, he answers all the parts. He may be quiet sometimes but he’s only bidding His time. He’s never ignoring you.
May the tears you cried in 2025 water the seeds you plant in 2026. May only what is aligned cross your threshold. May every night you survived in silence become discernment. And may what tried to break you become the very thing that blesses you.
I am eternally grateful for the relationships and spaces that I curated and currently have where I can just “be!” No over explaining, no over-clarifying, no walking on egg shells, just true authentic “being” and understanding!