I think some of the best advice in life when you are looking for answers is:
It’s always right there
You just have to really slow down and really try to say what you mean precisely
Almighty. You allowed us to witness this blessed month; please accept every fast, every prayer, every tear, and every silent supplication. If we fell short, forgive us.
If we were sincere, multiply it for us.
If we were weak, strengthen us.
Keep the light of Ramadan, its discipline & mercy alive in our hearts. Aameen.
You may be in the depths of despair at the moment but remember, storms don’t last forever. They can shake you to the core. But they will pass. The Almighty has promised us, with hardship comes ease. So the storm will pass eventually and you’ll find peace after the chaos.
a good woman: solves for you impossible predicaments and multiplies whatever care and kindness you give her into kingdoms of riches so rich you’ll chronically feel you’re reeling and can’t keep up. the most important realisation i’ve come to this year: to become the luckiest man alive, you have to do so laughingly little. just express a love to a good woman that is pure, powerful and free of all “noise”, and she’ll return it a hundredfold, so beautifully embroidered.
We may yearn for something and have been praying hard for it but it seems to elude us. Why? Because the Almighty knows what’s best. So when He gives something we don’t like or takes away something we like, trust Him. Because He knows best.
A woman who truly loves and desires you will go after your soul - not in a malicious way, but with a longing to imbue her spirit into yours. Not the body, not the mind, but the spirit - for the spirit holds dominion over all. She will see you as a being who possesses a soul, which is precious - for souls are treated with reverence, respect, and warmth - and in the purest sense, seeing you as a soul is a quiet admission that she desires to love you unconditionally - to merge with you spiritually so that your souls may once again intertwine.
Many modern men believe women to be heartless creatures, but that is only because they have never tasted the spiritually pure love of a woman who sees a man not as a means to an end but as his soul - encapsulating the entirety of his being. To love him as he longs to be loved, not merely as that which he has learnt to cope with. To be loved in this way means she will seek to uncover every dark corner within him, not just the parts he reveals as part of an optimised mating strategy. The pieces he carries with unspoken shame, the wounds that fuel self-destructive patterns - she will seek them out, the parts he believes to be unlovable, and love them with her whole heart anyway - even the crude, the broken, and the seemingly unspeakable - because she will empathise with his soul and seek to understand his spiritual journey. She wishes to alchemise his soul, accompanying him towards everything she always knew he could be - and beyond - for she reveres his soul and existence.
She will also have a deep desire to protect his soul and heart, an urge to wrap her own heart around his so that he feels safe and adored - yet equally admired for the quiet strength and resilience he has shown over the years, reborn time and time again into the person he is today. She will accept him, see him, and love him - as he is, as he comes. She will notice parts of him even he himself has not yet recognised, long before they shift from his subconscious into his conscious awareness. And she will remember these details. She will create a sanctuary of safety - not to crudely bring forth these aspects to prove her intelligence and awareness, but to allow him the space to unfold at a pace that feels organic and natural to him.
This love is so precious because women have a finite capacity to give it, and it is shaped by their intelligence, self-awareness, and reflection. Once gifted, a portion of her soul belongs to him. This is why women like this are profoundly discerning in offering such love in a world that often feels like a cesspit of performative affection - for if she is not, there is the possibility that she will lose this innate gift.
It is something that cannot be fabricated or forced. Spiritually attuned women are one with their intuition - they recognise when they have met someone of true significance. There is a consuming gravitational magnetic pull - anchored in resonance and familiarity - as if they have known each other before - a fate long since written, felt by the souls of both involved.