I think friend betrayal hurts worse than betrayal from a partner because friendships are usually built on choice not obligation. A romantic relationship comes with expectations, jealousy, conflict, and the possibility that things might not work out. But a friend is someone who chooses to be in your life without any of that. They see your highs your lows & your insecurities, your wins, and often know parts of you your partner doesn’t. So when a friend betrays you, it can feel like they had a front row seat to your life and still chose to move against you. It’s not just losing a person it’s losing trust, memories, loyalty, and sometimes the version of yourself that felt safe with them. That’s why for me friend betrayal leaves a wound that’s harder to explain and longer to heal.
If we date, don’t stop being you. Keep having fun, keep seeing your friends, keep chasing your goals, and keep enjoying your life. A relationship should add to your life, not take away from it. Just make sure you save time for us too.
Social media, Grindr, Jack’d, Tinder, etc, etc, etc has people fooled thinking they have options. Men will fuck almost anything if they are horny you are just a body part nobody actually cares anything about you. But having someone actually genuinely care about you is a very rare thing. After the hookups, after the hanging out with friends, after the alcohol, after the drugs that empty lonely void is still there. In a room full of people you can still feel alone. When you have someone real you gotta do everything to keep them, the world is cruel the gay world is even crueler. You may never get that again
Shoot all shots! Career shots. Romantic shots. Friendship shots. Relocation shots. All of it! Take the risk. You owe it to yourself to pursue something new and embrace the possibility of getting exactly what you want. This is your confirmation.
Go for it!
Unfortunately yes, I lose interest when I feel ignored.
Yes, I lose interest when u act nonchalant. and yes I lose interest when u don't show any interest back