according to psychology people who distance themselves from others as soon as they feel sad, unwanted, or ignored are actually unknowingly experiencing a coping mechanism called emotional withdrawal.they’re frequently misleading as introverts, but in reality they’re simply wired for self-preservation, shaped by years of learning that silence is safer than being misunderstoodit’s not that they don’t care, they might ghost friends they love, leave messages unanswered for weeks, or cancel plans they were excited about, not out of neglect but because the moment of connection feels like demand instead of a comfort.
I stopped telling people when my mental health starts slipping again. Once I heard someone say how exhausting it is to love someone with depression and anxiety, it stayed with me. I never want to feel like I’m draining the people I care about while I’m barely keeping myself afloat. So I go quiet. I carry it alone. Not because I want to, but because being seen as a burden hurts more than the silence.
No disrespect to anyone, but God please don't send me another partner who doesn't know how to communicate, take accountability, or emotionally show up. I don't want a partner who's still battling their own issues, avoiding healing, depressed, or emotionally unavailable and refusing help. I don't want a partner who can't stand firm, speak with clarity, or take control of their own life.
One thing about me? I’m not chasing NO relationship, friendship, family bond, or association. If you stop calling, I stop calling. If you stop checking on me, I stop checking on you. I’m not forcing no connection with nobody. People make time for who they wanna make time for, and I move accordingly. Ain’t no hard feelings, just matching energy. PERIOD.
I used to believe that communication could fix anything, so I always spoke up. Now, I realize how draining that is. Sometimes, the peace of just letting people be who they are and walking away is worth much more