You'll regret it if you get married, you'll regret it if you don't get married. You'll regret it if you have kids and you'll regret it if you don't. Kierkegaard said this 200 years ago as follows - whatever you choose, you'll regret it, because the problem isn't in your choices, it's in romanticizing your life. A person always finds an untravelled path alluring and mysterious. That's why the issue isn't making the right choice. It's choosing and deciding which regret you'll live with. In life, we must choose our regret.
Stop confusing timing with love. Some people didn't choose you, they just didn't have a better option yet, you thought it was connection, you thought it was chemistry, you thought they finally saw you, but the truth is their life was empty and you were available. You filled the gap they needed in, filled it at the exact moment they needed it. And the second something better walked in, or the second they healed enough to attract what they actually wanted, then you became unnecessary. That's not love. That is what I call convenience with eye contact. Love chooses you when the options are plentiful. Timing chooses you when the options are scarce and you gotta learn the difference before you give your love to someone that's only present because their first choice isn't available yet. Look at when they showed up. Was it after a breakup, after a loss, after a season where they were alone long enough to get uncomfortable and look at how they treat you now that life is full again. Are you still the priority or did you slowly slide from the center of the world to the edge of their schedule without them ever saying a word. The person who truly chose you does it when they have other options, when the timing is complicated when saying yes to you means saying no to something else. That is a choice. Everything else is availability. They only wanted you when nobody else was around. They never wanted you, they wanted someone and you happened to be there, you deserve to be someone's first choice on their best day, not their safest option on a slow one.
I once “upset” a man because he decided to harass me at work.
So I reported it to HR.
He came to me absolutely furious. Not because he had been reported for harassing me, but because apparently I was now putting his job at risk.
He told me he had a wife. Kids. Bills. A paycheck to provide.
And I was basically like… okay?
He said, “You don’t do that. You talk to the person first.”
My ass.
I’m not responsible for protecting your job from the consequences of your own behavior.
You don’t get to harass someone and then guilt them into silence because you have a family to feed.
If your wife and kids are the reason you need to keep your job, perhaps don’t do shit at work that could get you fired.
Wild concept, I know.
@xavixuan Tal cual, un regalo o una invitación con factura emocional adjunta deja de ser un gesto generoso para convertirse en chantaje.
Si invitas esperando cobrarte el favor en especie, mejor quédate en casa y te ahorras el ridículo.
@jota_mca Lo de "te he invitado a una cena de 80 €" tiene la misma lógica que recordarle a un amigo cuánto costó el regalo de cumpleaños para pasarle luego la factura.
Estaba hablando con un conocido que duró 13 años con la novia. Ella quería casarse y él no, terminaron y yo le pregunté por qué no quería casarse y dice "porque yo no sentía que ella fuera la persona para casarme" 13 años hizo perder el tiempo a esa pobre mujer.
@camialunat Hasta que no pones a prueba a la gente no la conoces realmente. Ni a tu propia familia. Algunos rechinan los dientes de la envidia cada vez que me ven porque me ha ido muy bien. Es triste pero al mismo tiempo me he dado cuenta de quién se alegra sinceramente por mí
Tuve una amiga que estuvo más de 10 años a mi lado y resulta que me entero que siempre me odió ella y su familia. Es de no creer como nunca terminas de conocer a las personas
No pensaba comentar nada de este infraser, solo por aclarar: No, imbécil, no es humor para hombres. Si acaso es contenido para anormales.
Es nauseabundo y das un asco enorme.
Mira a tu alrededor: la vida está llena de pequeños milagros. La belleza te rodea, pero vamos tan deprisa que dejamos de verla, persiguiendo lo que creemos necesitar y olvidando lo que ya tenemos. Pausa, agradece y no des por sentado el milagro de estar viva.
Just found out that Mozart actually learnt to play the piano from his prodigy sister who wasn’t allowed to pursue music and was forced into marriage, they even burnt all her music and all evidence of her playing, the only evidence left a letter Mozart wrote of him praising it.
...They didn't want my daughter. They wanted the title of being her parents... while keeping me as the unpaid employee who made their parenting possible.
@anafolklorism Eu passei por isso,tava ficando com um cara e ele só falava da ex,dei um fora nele porque fiquei de saco cheio,ele ficou atrás de mim depois disso.hoje sou casada com ele 😅