As someone with an avoidant attachment style, the popularity of “if they wanted to, they would” haunts me because sometimes I do really want to talk to someone, ask to see someone, etc, but I just don’t 😭
i love a partner that engages in every thing i tell them with care & intent of interest. ask me questions, do research, being interested in my mind is how you keep me interested in you!
a therapist said that sometimes being a loner is a trauma response. you’re so use to people you love not showing up for you or walking away or you may have grown up in a toxic environment. that the only one you could depend on was YOU! so you naturally feel safe when you’re alone
i like that “morning baby” kinda relationship. the no games, great communication, lot of sex, lots of kissing, lot of cuddling, lots of flirting, lots of being goofy kind of relationship. that makes you want to run 100 miles, read books, clean up your bad habits kind of love.
One day men will understand that women are reciprocators, not initiators. They step AFTER y’all step. You lead, they FOLLOW. Idk how else to explain this but it’s really SO simple.