If you genuinely want to read a gay historical military book, do not read the inaccurate Wattpadslop that is The Boy I Love. Consider reading Into Deep Waters by Kaje Harper or Wingmen by Ensan Case
Still blows me away that millennials (my generation) grew up in a time where almost every social taboo had been extinguished and you could make jokes about literally anything (the 90s/2000s). And then the second they became adults, they immediately proceeded to built a system of even more rigorous “woke” social taboos and brought back public shaming for off color jokes.
it's funny because Japanese BLs in British settings are still Japanese-flavored like "ah... the tender touch of my fellow boys... a delicate and pure love...." but all British-written yaois are just Lord of the Flies
Once, my psychologist told me "People can understand your pain, your traumas, and where they come from, and still find your actions unacceptable. Your trauma doesn't justify your mistake, it only explains it."